Each person in this or that life situation is faced with rudeness, impudence, boorish behavior towards himself. But not all people, by virtue of their character or upbringing, know how to give a proper rebuff in order to maintain their dignity and not spoil the mood. What are the ways to deal with offenders?
Instructions
Step 1
First, you need to learn to control your emotions. If you are offended or insulted, and you start to blush, make excuses or, even worse, cry, this will add confidence to the offender. On those around you, you will make the impression of a weak and defenseless person. Therefore, it is necessary to control yourself and relax at a critical moment, keeping calm and a confident look. Take a deep breath, imagine a person who is rude to you, in a large glass jar, through which you can not hear anything, but only see how he slaps his lips funny. With this technique, you will get rid of unnecessary excitement.
Step 2
Learn to master your eyes. Sometimes a bold and confident direct look can scare off a potential offender. Train at home in front of a mirror - for 5-7 minutes at least once a day, look your reflection in the eyes. Don't look away and try not to blink. Let your whole look speak of superiority and self-confidence.
Step 3
You can fight back the offender with the help of a sense of humor, in other words, make fun of him in public. This requires a well-delivered speech and the ability to joke. This is not given to everyone, some people with a delayed reaction all the necessary thoughts come after some time, so it is difficult for them to react to attacks in their direction immediately. If you belong to this category of people, learn a few phrases with which you can respond to insults in your direction in different situations:
"You can see that you have a lack of male (female) attention, but do not take the evil out on others!"
“You seem to be completely lonely in life, and it’s not surprising if you hate people so much!”
“I am sincerely sorry for you. With such an attitude towards people, you probably have no friends."
Step 4
Sometimes humane methods of dealing with offenders do not work. Psychologists advise that if a boorish person does not pose a physical danger to you, you can put him in his place in the same way - without being ashamed of strong expressions in his direction.
Step 5
If some impudent bothers you constantly, and you do not know where to hide from his bullying, try the extreme method - to intimidate him. Surely, you or your friends have a familiar brutal man who is ready to stand up mentally and physically to protect a good person. Sometimes this method works better than other methods of dealing with offenders. It's better than enduring constant abuse.
