Not everyone can live completely and completely indulging their desires. Much more often you have to limit yourself in favor of really important and significant things. Learning to subordinate desire to necessity can be difficult, but sooner or later you will have to do it.
Instructions
Step 1
If at an early age a person can still afford to do as he wants without worrying too much about the consequences, then by the time of growing up, usually, you already need to be able to limit your desires and needs. Children who grew up in an atmosphere of permissiveness and parental love find it difficult to realize that in the adult world, their desires do not play a primary role, and this discovery can cause serious stress.
Step 2
As a rule, the degree of personal maturity directly depends on how much a person is able to control his desires and is able to give them up in favor of something. The easiest way to learn this is when you find yourself in a situation where opportunities and resources will be limited by objective circumstances. However, such an experience can be quite painful, so it will be much more practical to master the art of controlling needs on your own initiative, rather than under the influence of troubles.
Step 3
First of all, it is necessary to realize the unpleasant but obvious fact that not a single person, including you, is the center of the universe. The maximum you can count on is a certain circle of people for whom your desires really matter. Moreover, each of these people also has a whole range of needs that may be more important to him than yours. However, looking into yourself, you will understand that you yourself treat other people's desires in the same way.
Step 4
In addition to objective circumstances, your desires can be hindered by conflicting aspirations of others. Until a certain point, this contradiction may be imperceptible, but sooner or later the opposition will become tangible, and you will either have to go ahead, no matter what, or give up your goal. Naturally, the second option in most cases turns out to be a more balanced and correct decision.
Step 5
A good way to learn to bend your desires is to be able to evaluate not only the obvious consequences of your actions, but also how they will affect your future. Perhaps a sober assessment of the prospects will help you to look differently at a fleeting need, forcing you to overestimate its importance.
Step 6
Keep in mind that the sooner you can control your desires, the more disappointments and troubles you will avoid. A great option to bring some dimension and control into your life is monthly budgeting and scheduling. When you learn to plan your spending and free time in advance, it will be much easier for you to convince yourself to give up something you want, but objectively unprofitable.
