All people regularly cheat on each other. This is due to the peculiarities of the human psyche, as well as to various social conditions. So, there are many different ways to understand whether the interlocutor is lying to you or not.
All people lie, this statement can be considered a scientifically proven fact. Unfortunately this is so, but knowing this trivial fact, you can learn to use it for the benefit of yourself and society. Someone is deliberately lying in order to conceal certain information, someone is cheating because they cannot tell the truth because of fear. This is largely due to our upbringing, habits and the social environment in which we are at a particular moment in time.
Modern practical psychology has developed a number of general methods for identifying the lies of the interlocutor. The most famous authors in this area of practical psychology can be considered Allan and Barbara Pease (their book The Bible of Body Language), Desmond Morris, Dr. Kurpatov.
In order to identify whether a person is lying to you or not, you should turn to the common human behavioral types. Remember yourself when you were a child and the other children around you at this time. It is most difficult for children to cheat, because they have the lowest life experience, they are kinder and "unspoiled". When young children lie, they tend to have very similar reflexes. Children subconsciously do not want to hear the lies they tell, so they unconsciously want to close either their eyes (so as not to see the person they are lying to), or their mouths (in fact, not to tell a lie), or their ears (which is regarded as “I don’t want to hear my own lies The same gestures are valid for adults, mature personalities, however, in the process of their socialization, these gestures are "contrived" and become more imperceptible, for example:
- The unconscious desire to close the eyes translates into scratching them. Adults, as it were, automatically tend to close them, but halfway through, they slightly change the gesture so that it does not seem so obvious.
- The childish tendency to close the ears, according to the same logic, is modified in the scratching of the earlobe in adults.
- The “close your mouth” gesture is modified even more. As a rule, in adults, it looks like scratching the nose, it is worth noting that often scratching the nose occurs with the middle or index finger of the hand, scratching the chin or other frontal part of the face (eyebrows, forehead, cheeks). It should be said that it is on this form of gesture that special attention should be paid, because it is found more often than others. Moreover, in most cases, when a person tells a lie, the nose itself involuntarily begins to itch. The gesture "scratching your nose" during a conversation not only literally closes your mouth and creates additional protection for your face.
The listed methods are not the only ones, and the "ability" to see them in a timely manner must be constantly developed by focusing on the hands and face of the interlocutor. It should be said that these are just one of the few gestures of lies and to increase accuracy they need to be considered in conjunction with other non-verbal signals: leg gestures, facial expressions, eye movement and direction, and others.
