Individuals who love to manipulate people can be found in almost any team. They are so able to play on the merits and demerits of others that they are able to make a weak person a real puppet. In order not to fall under the influence of people, not to follow someone's ideas and not to fulfill other people's desires, you need to work on yourself.
Instructions
Step 1
Be confident and decisive. The manipulator, feeling the victim's indecision, begins to mentally “crush” and force him to do something for him. To start exuding confidence, you can enroll in personal growth courses or learn some techniques for demonstrating faith in yourself. Signs of confidence include calm speech and certainty in wording, slow movements and natural behavior, and an inner state of calm. If you do not even feel the inner determination, try to play it. And over time, this behavior will become part of your personality.
Step 2
Learn to say "no", if something does not suit you, defend your point of view. Very often people are afraid to refuse, so as not to be branded as rude and ill-mannered. At the same time, they are not worried about the fact that they are considered spineless and spineless. Don't try to please everyone - live your life.
Step 3
Try not to trust everyone. Hide your weaknesses so that they cannot be used against you. Behave unpredictably, then the person trying to influence you will be discouraged and leave you alone.
Step 4
Ask the person directly what he wants from you. Ask him as many questions as possible. Having come under a psychological attack, the manipulator will most likely be confused - after all, he is accustomed to a certain scenario and expects predictable behavior from you.
Step 5
Study the behavior of the person who is trying to influence you. For example, a colleague compliments you in front of the entire team, praises your intellectual capabilities, and then asks you to help do the job. At the same time, you know that he simply dumps his duties on you. Do the following: return the compliment with dignity, tell him that he overestimates you, and refuse. If the manipulator does not leave you alone, you can try to act harder - agree to fulfill the request, but not do it. However, by doing this, you risk making an enemy.
