Have you noticed that guests come to some in droves and then discuss these meetings for weeks, but you won't lure anyone to others? Hospitality is a valuable and wonderful quality that helps to develop great relationships with people and makes you a famous hospitable host of a home where you always want to look. But if you are a very humble and shy person, being hospitable is not easy at all. How do you fix this?
Many people are interested in the issue of hospitality. Why is it sometimes so difficult to be hospitable?
In the age of the invasion of gadgets and technologies, many have simply forgotten how to communicate. And when suddenly they begin to feel lonely, the hand involuntarily reaches out to dial the number of friends in order to invite them and have fun. And here they come to the road, covered with fog, where the path is desired, but unknown.
The fear of appearing in front of the guest as a negligent host, making you bored, is chilling. Today it is scary to lose friends, because modern life already narrows their circle.
So what can you do in order to expand your social circle, please guests and become famous in their eyes as a hospitable person? Take the initiative. Being hospitable does not mean sitting within four walls and waiting for someone to knock. Maybe no one will ever knock. Invite yourself. And not at random. Give the exact day and time.
There is a good Georgian proverb: "A guest was sent to us by God." One who steps on the threshold is like a man from God. Maybe he will please with good news. Or teach you something, show you a good example. Or maybe he will cheer you up with just one smile. So how is it supposed to meet such a messenger "from above"?
Hospitality starts at the doorstep. Go out to meet those who have come, smile and, if this is correct, hug, greet. In all these actions, one thing is important - your guest should feel that he is in the center of your thoughts, he is the most important thing for you, he is truly desired.
Prepare a treat in advance. It is not necessary that the table is full of food. Sometimes it is more important for a friend to be listened to, sympathized with, and therefore he is not at all up to your meals. But do not forget to offer snacks, a cup of coffee or tea anyway.
The very word "hospitality" in Greek is formed with the help of two parts, which translate as "love" and "stranger." That is, literally - "love for a stranger." What does this mean? It is important to learn to show impartiality, not to single out one, leaving the other to stand aside. Show kindness and concern even to those you don't know much. Do not deprive anyone of your attention.
Don't make your circle of friends closed and impossible for others. Otherwise, it may happen that someone will leave it, and only you will remain in the center of the circle. Therefore, do not deprive anyone of your attention, and then not a single person leaving your house will feel unpleasant.
Consider leisure time. It can be dances, board or outdoor games, or maybe a fairly confidential conversation. Think over a couple of topics for conversation, remember in advance relevant anecdotes, interesting news that will captivate guests. If suddenly there is an awkward pause, a hitch, silence will hang, then you will use your blanks and give the mood to the evening.
At the same time, never discuss with some friends of your other friends. Never, under any circumstances, do this, bypass these topics as sharp pins where you can seriously injure yourself. In any case, all these discussions in one form or another will become available to the "heroes" of gossip, and then you will suffer as a person within whose walls these conversations were conducted. As great as the temptation to support gossip is, don't do it.
And, most importantly, do not forget, even if there are gorgeous dishes on the table and the fun will flow over the edge, you will be considered truly hospitable only when you feel genuine interest in yourself. Show such interest that the guest immediately sees you as a friend. But don't swim behind the buoys. If it is obvious from the reaction of the interlocutor that he does not want to delve into some personal question, return to land.
Be kind, don't forget about treats, be sincere in conversation, pick up the right entertainment. All these actions will help you become the person you always want to drop in for tea.
