Cheerful people go through life with a smile, they succeed, they easily make new contacts and achieve results. A person with a sense of humor will never sit on the sidelines, but will be in the thick of things. And everyone can become such a person.
Instructions
Step 1
It is difficult for a modest and reserved person to immediately become the soul of the company, but constant training will give results. You need to start by expanding your circle of acquaintances. When friends invite you to a party, do not refuse, because skills can only be obtained through personal contacts. Visit hobby clubs, various lectures and seminars, it is very easy to find interlocutors in them.
Step 2
Be positive and smile. A gloomy person is not interesting, but brightness and optimism attract attention. Learn to be friendly in any situation. It is worth working out this in front of the mirror so that you get not a grimace, but real joy. To make things easier, remember something very pleasant, and this will add sincerity to your smile. And try not to lose this state, every day come to it more and more, and then it will become a part of your life.
Step 3
Start reading. Many and different. The book significantly broadens a person's horizons, allows you to communicate on different topics. In addition, there is an expansion of vocabulary. If you devote a few minutes to books every day, then in a year you will speak much more interestingly, you will be able to maintain a conversation in a variety of circles. Choose the texts that you like yourself, read about what is interesting. And those around you also need it, they will be happy to talk to you. But it is better not just to retell what you have read, but to have your own point of view, focusing on it.
Step 4
Come up with a few phrases to help you communicate. For example, this is how they teach to communicate in the cold market, when it is necessary to offer a product to strangers. These phrases strike up a dialogue, allow you to catch the eye of a person, to interest him. There are no standard expressions, they will each have their own, depending on the area of communication. Each of them should be rehearsed in front of the mirror to make it all look very natural.
Step 5
A cheerful and sociable person knows how to tell a funny story or anecdote. Find a few options that you like. Learn them and tell those closest to you first. It is important to consider intonation and sometimes gestures. It may not be funny the first time, but with experience it will come. Add one joke a week to your piggy bank, and in a year you will be a very funny person with whom it is simply impossible to get bored.
Step 6
Surprisingly, sociable people are often called those who know how to listen. There are people who just need to speak out. And in such a company it would be more appropriate to just keep quiet and ask leading questions. This type of behavior is very useful, and if it works, you will become the best interlocutor for many. The combination of optimism and listening is highly valued in modern society.
