Patterns and stereotypes can destroy our personal lives. Imposed by parents from childhood, they are so well eaten into the subconscious that it is sometimes difficult to get rid of them. The main thing, before applying them, is to listen to your other half and come to a common conclusion, respecting each other's opinions.
In our time of gender equality, we are used to thinking that in a couple, any problem is the fault of both. But psychologists have long proved that this is not at all the case.
"Parents wish us only the best"
As a rule, everyone thinks so. And if the mother did not like something in the behavior of the spouse of her child, this is undoubtedly a reason to be wary yourself. But it will be even better to sort things out, because mom saw that insidious character trait in your loved one, which you did not notice for so long. And if you think about it, whose dissatisfaction is pouring out on your partner? Yours or Mom's?
"In a good couple there is no word I, there is only us"
And this will be one of the biggest mistakes of your life. Putting aside your own needs for the sake of a loved one, you risk ending up with a broken trough over time. Any love has a tendency to pass, and its place is taken by the awareness of reality. It is then that a person realizes that he does not have his own social life except for worries about his beloved. And if problems arise in such a relationship, then one cannot avoid hysterics about the best years of life given away, about ingratitude for all the good, and so on.
"The couple's financial budget must be shared."
This is not as much of a necessity as it is commonly believed. Pocket money has not been canceled yet, so the best option would be to divide all the money earned into mine, yours and ours. So each in a couple will have a little more financial freedom, which will make it possible to delight each other with pleasant surprises more often.
"Opposites attract"
How to raise a common child? Go to the sea or visit distant relatives? Do you want to renovate your apartment or buy new furniture? Various household little things build the foundation of your relationship. And if a couple does not have at least some common views and interests, they will not last long.
"A woman must"
Driven into every woman's head from the cradle. "Well, you are a girl, behave more modestly; at your age I was already raising children and caring for my husband; how can a woman not know this?" Undoubtedly, almost every woman has heard this. Thanks to this, in the minds of some women, the image of an ideal hostess is formed, on which the whole family rests. And if in the future she cannot correspond to him, then the beloved man will have disappointment in her, which can negatively affect further relationships.
If there are sincere feelings in a couple, then love will conquer everything. The main thing is to remember that the willingness to listen to your partner and make compromises is the key to a long and happy life together.
