It often happens that a person, being among a huge number of people, feels lonely. It seems that there is constant communication, interaction with other people, but my soul is very empty and dreary.
What is loneliness
Loneliness is a state of a person in which he is isolated from others: in the physical, real and imaginary mental. In the first case, this is due to some external factors: work in secluded places, forced isolation from society (a dangerous criminal or a mentally unhealthy person). And in the second, it happens in the soul of a person, despite constant contacts with other people, when there is no soul mate close in views and meaning in life.
The hardest part is mental loneliness. It can arise for various reasons: parting with a loved one, death of loved ones, moving to another city / country. Sometimes a person is lonely since childhood due to a complex inner world that is not understandable for his environment.
Women are more likely than men to suffer from loneliness due to more highly developed emotionality. But sometimes men experience this condition very hard.
Ways to deal with loneliness
The main thing in dealing with loneliness is not to dwell on this feeling. Being with yourself for a short period is very useful, because with constant employment, sometimes there is not enough time to understand yourself, your feelings and sincere desires. But you should not isolate yourself, try to isolate yourself from society for a long time, otherwise it can develop into depression, which is then very difficult to get out of on your own without the help of specialists.
In no case should you eat or drink loneliness, it will not go anywhere, and the consequences can become very serious, and sometimes even intractable (alcoholism). You should not get addicted to different depressants, they will certainly help, but addiction may appear, and the reason will not go away by itself.
If loneliness arose due to parting with a loved one, then you do not need to blame yourself and come up with different complexes for yourself. You should not delve into the past and remember good moments, from this the feeling of sorrow will only become stronger, and loneliness will manifest itself even more. Give yourself some time to relax, take a break from everything - find some positive moments in your condition. After all, you have enough time to take care of yourself and do something that was impossible in the relationship. One should feel oneself not as a lonely person, but as a free person, who does not need to be accountable to anyone for his actions.
After a few days of rest, you should go out into society and take your day to the maximum, so that there is no time for sad thoughts. This is a good opportunity to make a career, gain new skills and knowledge, and take up your favorite hobby. Enjoy every day, and also try to communicate more with positive people who do not go through difficult days in their lives, they will help you tune in the right mood. You can visit different entertainment places, if you really want it, you do not need to do it through force, otherwise it can cause the opposite effect. And never regret the past, because the future depends only on you.
If you are lonely due to the death of loved ones, then there is a slightly different situation, and only time will heal this feeling. You should not forget your loved ones, but you need to understand that you can no longer help with anything and change something too. So take it for granted, but keep living. And a busy day is also a good option for getting rid of bad thoughts. When a person gets very tired during the day, then at night there is no time for worries. And over time, loneliness will not be so acute, and communication with other people partially compensates for this.
When you move to another place where there are no acquaintances, a feeling of loneliness can also arise due to a lack of communication with loved ones, when there is no one to share your thoughts and emotions with. Here, an option can be telephone conversations or communication via the Internet (Skype is a good opportunity not only to hear, but also to see a person even in another country and is absolutely free). And of course, you should try to make new acquaintances from your inner circle - neighbors, colleagues.
Loneliness can be useful for a short period of time, do not feel sorry for yourself, it only aggravates the situation, and try to use it for your own good in order to improve and develop.
