Adolescence is a very difficult period in the life of a teenager. At this age, it is very easy for parents to lose contact with their children.
Loneliness in many adolescents takes up most of the emotional content, much more than in an adult and even more than in children. The reason for this can be many reasons, such as not very warm relations in the family, difficulties in understanding how to react to a particular situation, misunderstanding of who he is to others, or they are victims, and are already used to being her and simply not to anyone trust. The latter often, due to mistrust, do not open up to anyone, do not make new acquaintances, do not come into close contact with already existing acquaintances.
But nevertheless, the main, and most widespread, factor of a teenager's detachment from the outside world can be considered not the closest relationships in the family. After all, it is the family that initially forms the abilities and emotional skills with which a person enters the society, the outside world. The peculiarities of relationships, both in the family and at school, are their emotional saturation, trust and love between the subjects of these relationships. If there is a place for aggression in relations with parents, then aggression will be present in the child's features.
The ability to make friends is formed, for the most part, in the family. If a teenager is attached to his parents and feels safe, then he is able to quickly make friends with peers. The teenager who did not feel affection for his parents is much less interested in friendship. This does not mean that you need to jump around the child all the time and in every possible way solve all his problems for him. There are things that the child must overcome on his own. However, communication with him should be, nevertheless, a little more open than simply: "Hey, son, what's in school?"
You need to be interested in the causes of your child's problems. If your child, for example, received a negative assessment, then you should not rush at him with shouts and reproaches. The child should be asked what prevented him from learning the lesson. Maybe something is just not clear to him. It is necessary to understand the reasons for this very behavior of a teenager and show in every possible way that his parents love him.
