Usually, the news of pregnancy brings only positive emotions to the expectant mother. But it is still worth preparing for many changes in your life, including in communication with others. Surely many relatives, girlfriends and even casual acquaintances will decide to teach a pregnant woman how to live properly now. And if sometimes the advice is useful and necessary, then for the most part you don't want to listen to them unnecessarily.
Instructions
Step 1
The most common advice from close and not very close people is medical advice. Such "help" from the outside should be treated not even with caution, but with caution, and should react to it accordingly. Each pregnancy proceeds individually, so useful advice, albeit from a doctor, but given to another woman, is not necessarily suitable for every expectant mother. Only the supervising physician has the right to give medical advice after all analyzes and interviews. When a woman is faced with such "wise" advice, one can even answer somewhat harshly: "And my doctor says that …" or "My doctor and I came to the conclusion that it would be better …".
Step 2
The next group of tips is the so-called signs of pregnant women. Some of them, which are general recommendations for expectant mothers, are, of course, useful, but, most likely, every woman already knows them: do not lie on her back and stomach, do not sit cross-legged, etc. Advisors should be thanked and smiled for saying simple truths.
Step 3
Another part of prejudice about pregnancy can be perceived by women in different ways: someone really believes that it is impossible to purchase clothes or things for a baby in advance, others take out almost everything from the shelves of children's stores, enjoying shopping with their future father, someone does not have a haircut and does not wear makeup throughout pregnancy, while others change their image almost every month. In this case, everything depends on the personal choice of the woman. But advisers should not be taken with hostility, you can just name your arguments, all the same, after all, they will not argue with a pregnant woman.
Step 4
There are people who see negativity in everything, and they mostly bring this negative to those around them. During pregnancy, such people should be avoided, since the process of childbirth and the state of the unborn baby depend on the mood and peace of mind. Frightening and scary details about the childbirth of friends or relatives, as well as horror stories on Internet forums should not be listened to and read in general, stopping attempts to tell about your experience with the words "I am not interested in this" or even with the positively attuning phrase "Everything will go well for me" … And it is better to discuss any fears and worries with a doctor who will provide accurate information, and not someone's guess.
Step 5
When outsiders intervene in the matter, and there are also enough such intrusive and tactless people, it is better to respond to the advice with a smile and a nod, while letting go of it. Explanations that polite people do not bother with advice on the street, in transport or in the queue for tickets, most likely, will not have the desired effect, and spending your strength and the nerves of the expectant mother on arguments is not the best way to spend your leisure time. If the advisor does not calm down, you can play the situation "important call" and leave the line of sight of a casual passer-by.
Step 6
You can listen to advice on organizing childbirth, and it is better to talk with friends who have recently given birth or read reviews on the forums of specific maternity hospitals. You can discuss some issues and hear someone else's opinion about the presence of the child's father at childbirth, the coordinates of good doctors or conditions in maternity hospitals, the possibility of being with the baby after childbirth, etc. Moreover, the final decision is still better for future parents, but with some arguments backed up by someone else's experience.
Step 7
Separately, it should be said about the advice of future grandmothers. The most dear people will never advise anything bad and probably wish only the best for children and future grandchildren, but times are changing: the conditions of childbirth, and medicine in general, have gone far ahead, and therefore some recommendations have lost their meaning. At the same time, one should not refuse help, let alone be rude and offend them even with accidentally thrown words. Better to smile, hug and sincerely thank them for their participation. Most likely, after giving birth, parents will have to turn to their grandparents for help more than once, and therefore it is not worth spoiling the relationship.
