To correctly perceive criticism means to look for a constructive component in it and use the information received for self-improvement. Work on yourself to correctly respond to the comments of others.
Instructions
Step 1
Don't make excuses in response to criticism. If speaking to you is constructive and essentially fair, find the courage to admit your own mistakes. When the other person unfairly criticizes you, your arguments will still not help to correct the situation, and maybe even aggravate it. No need to shake the air in vain. Consciousness of one's own righteousness is quite enough.
Step 2
It is important to be calm in response to unfair criticism. Understand the situation, check with the individual what exactly does not suit him in your behavior. Learn to conduct a dialogue so that the abuser understands the absurdity of his accusations. To do this, it is necessary to move from emotions to logical thinking and sound reasoning. If you're right, your opponent's accusations will be smashed to smithereens.
Step 3
Know how to distinguish the fair part of the remark from the unfounded accusations. You can agree with the first, but you don't need to accept the second. Moreover, it is better to start with what you agree with the interlocutor. This will set him up for constructive dialogue, and it will be easier for you to show him where he is wrong.
Step 4
Remember, aggression in response to criticism will not lead to anything good, especially if the criticism is fair. Take note of the opinions of others and try to correct your own behavior. Do not close your eyes to the obvious. If, deep down, you at least somehow agree with the words of the individual, accept them. Sometimes the mistakes and shortcomings of other people are better seen from the outside. Use the information received to determine the area of future personal growth.
Step 5
Accept the right to exist from the other person's point of view. Some people believe that they alone are always right. Don't be like them. There is no one recognized correct pattern of behavior. If a person does not think very well of you, he must have personal motives for this. With this approach, you can benefit from any criticism - fair or not.
Step 6
It is most difficult to choose the right reaction to criticism received from loved ones. If the opinion of acquaintances, colleagues or strangers in general may not be taken to heart, the accusations of relatives and loved ones hurt him. You always need to figure out why a loved one thought of you that way. Even if the criticism is grossly unfair, it is a signal that something has gone wrong in your relationship. Think about why the person doubts or suspects you. It may well be that it is not about you, but about the personal problems of your loved one. In this case, you need to understand which ones, and help him.
Step 7
Keep in mind that criticism should not affect your self-esteem. You can accept or not accept it, but you cannot change your opinion of yourself for the worse because of someone's comment. Be calm and kind in your conversation with the critic. So you will grow in him and in your own eyes. Don't lose your sense of your dignity.
