Fears are sometimes useful for people, but only in those cases when they cause the instinct of self-preservation and protect them from rash actions. But with phobias, the situation is different, it is a panic fear that arises for no reason and does not lend itself to any control. In such a state, people are not able to think sensibly, and the phobia begins to dominate them, interfering with a normal life.
Why do phobias occur?
All fears that are not associated with the instinct of self-preservation are called pathological, that is, phobias. They arise for various reasons, for example, because of the stress suffered in childhood or the usual "winding" oneself with negative thoughts or memories associated with a certain subject. In general, the causes of phobias are poorly understood, but some patterns can still be distinguished:
1. Fears associated with childhood. For example, fear of the dark, heights, loneliness, or water. Until a certain age, the presence of such fears is considered normal, but if people continue to experience childhood fears in adulthood, it is worth considering.
2. Phobias often occur in people with a weak mentality, increased hostility or aggressiveness.
3. Another possible reason is the comfort of some people. That is, a person gives in to the opinion of the majority or another person that something should be feared, for example, spiders, cemeteries, air travel, etc.
4. The desire to attract attention to oneself also often becomes the cause of the appearance of phobias. Most often, diseases for this reason occur in women and children.
How to deal with phobias
There are many phobias, sometimes reaching the point of absurdity. For example, there are people who are afraid of long words, certain plants, rain, snow or sun. And there are phobias that do not allow you to perform important actions and fulfill vital needs - fear of food, diseases, people, work and much more. Undoubtedly, in such situations, you should consult a doctor, however, if the phobia is not so absurd and not in an extreme stage, you have the opportunity to cure it yourself.
First you need to get rid of negative thoughts and learn how to turn them into positive ones. As soon as you get overwhelmed by a sense of fear about a terrible event that may or should happen, try to think of something good and pleasant.
The next thing you need to do is stop avoiding your fear. you should meet him face to face. Often people who are afraid of the dark leave the lights on everywhere. And if a person is afraid of a confined space, he will never use the elevator. This is wrong, and in order to solve the problem, you need to learn how to cope with yourself in stressful situations. Many people say that reading or singing helps them, some begin to count or speak loudly. The main thing is to make sure that your breathing remains even and deep.
So, busting your fear several times, you will understand that it is not so difficult to do it. And soon your phobias will disappear forever. After that, you will be able to get more joy and pleasure out of life, and you will also remain confident in any situation.
