Fears are strong negative emotions that prevent you from enjoying life, rejoicing, loving, looking for yourself. Overcoming your own fear means opening the door to a new life full of freedom and confidence.
Instructions
Step 1
Accept your fear. If you turn a blind eye to it, you will only aggravate the problem. Look into your soul and articulate everything that you fear. Remember that you are not alone: the same or similar fears are experienced by millions of people around the world. Then try choosing your own method of dealing with your fears.
Step 2
The first way to overcome fear is to act quickly and spontaneously. For example, you are afraid to speak in public. When you are preparing for a performance, you are constantly winding yourself up, colorfully presenting pictures of your shame, etc. As a result, when you step on the podium, you start to stutter, blush and forget the words you should have said. To avoid this, prepare to perform as if there will be another person speaking for you. Those. Prepare your speech carefully, but “forget” that you will have to give it to a large crowd. And at the right time, go on stage and give your speech, without thinking about how scared you are.
Step 3
Another way to overcome fear is to gradually overcome it. For example, you are a shy girl, you really like your neighbor, but you are afraid to talk to him. For starters, you should learn how to talk to other guys without embarrassment. Take small steps for this: sincerely thank the man who held the elevator for you, in the store ask a stranger to get a high-placed product for you, ask a passerby for directions. When you start to do this without embarrassment, try asking your cute neighbor with a minor request and be sure to sincerely thank him. Develop your communication little by little: starting with small phrases about the weather, after a few weeks you will probably be talking about more interesting topics.
Step 4
The next technique for dealing with fears is called "Hyperbole". This method is based on the fact that you need to come up with the most scary scenario possible. For example, you are afraid of being fired from your job. Imagine that you are fired, you cannot find a new job, you get depressed, you stop looking after yourself, you start drinking, you are kicked out of your house, you become a vagabond. Do you really think that this scenario is possible? If yes, then you need the help of a psychologist. your self-esteem is extremely low. And if you do not think that losing your job can turn into vagrancy, then you should not be panicked about it. Very often, negative events, such as divorce, job loss, illness, force a person to mobilize, show all their abilities and become more confident and happier as a result.
