"Marriage is the art of compromise." These words must have been heard at least once in the life of a man and a woman. It is much more difficult to understand what is behind them and how the aforementioned compromise should be reached. It seems to the spouse that in a particular situation it is necessary to act only this way, and not otherwise. The woman has exactly the opposite opinion on this matter. Nobody wants to give in. Word for word, and now a full-scale scandal with the transition to personalities is blazing. How to come to this very compromise?
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, understand and remember that there are no ideal people in the world! Every person has flaws. If you love him, you will look at them condescendingly (up to a certain limit, of course!)
Step 2
Understand once and for all: the other person is convinced of his innocence by arguments, and not by physical force or hysterical tears. If your husband uses his fists to force you to do what he thinks is right, he demonstrates his stupidity. But a wife who throws a tantrum to force her husband to do what she thinks is right looks, let's say delicately, not in the best light.
Step 3
From the very beginning, clearly agree that the right to a decisive vote in this or that issue belongs to the family member who understands it best! If the husband is a pronounced "techie", then the wife should hardly go with her opinion (and even more so, impose it) about repairs, buying household appliances, etc. In the same way, if the limit of the husband's culinary abilities is fried eggs, he should not tell his wife what products to buy, what dishes to cook, what spices to use.
Step 4
When discussing difficult, controversial issues, try to show maximum restraint and composure. Emotions are bad helpers here. It is much better if you first discuss all the "pros" of this or that option, and then the "cons" and evaluate which is more.
Step 5
Both husband and wife should learn to give in to little things. This, firstly, will create a favorable psychological climate in the family, and secondly, it will help to stand your ground when it comes to a really fundamental issue, such as “I was inferior to you in this and that; now you can listen to my wish."
Step 6
Remember, the main thing is to maintain love and mutual respect. This will save you from mistakes and help you find a mutually acceptable compromise.
