Human nature is such that he just needs to communicate with other people, share emotions and impressions with them, talk about events and interesting people. But what if you are the target of discussion?
Instructions
Step 1
Any discussion can be both positive and negative. People often talk about the successes of their friends, but even more often they gossip about them or share rumors. Of course, any opinion of people, especially those expressed behind the back, can be unpleasant. After all, it is usually very far from the truth, which actually is and from the opinion of the person being discussed. However, any behavior has its reasons and you will need to find out if you want to stop discussing your personality.
Step 2
When conversations about you and such discussions are unpleasant for you, the surest way is to tell the person directly about it, to find out the reason for such conversations. Perhaps other people are somehow unhappy with your behavior or attitude. Maybe you offended them in some way, but they do not dare to tell you about it. So they found a kind of revenge. There can be a lot of reasons for this, the main thing here is to find out them and talk to people frankly. Behave calmly, kindly, do not try to present yourself in the best possible light. You need to listen to the person's opinion and find a calm answer for him that would lead to a solution to the problem.
Step 3
And then you can already act according to the circumstances. You will probably be surprised at the reason for the dissatisfaction, but still apologize to the offended one and explain your behavior. In most cases, this should lead to reconciliation, especially if you sincerely desire it. You may even have to explain your motives to a group of people, but you need to find the strength to do this in order to improve the relationship.
Step 4
But even if reconciliation has not happened, or the person is simply pleased to discuss you behind his back, say nasty things, if his resentment against you does not go away, you will know that you have done everything possible for your part. Let the behavior of a person be already on his conscience, you do not have to suffer in guessing, you can simply stop communicating with this subject. This is also a good way to talk about your personality in spite of you. Do not pay attention to them, neither such people, nor their evil thoughts are worth your dignity and calmness.
Step 5
But what cannot be done in such a position is to adopt the model of behavior of such people and start discussing them. There is no sense or dignity in such actions, and you will quickly turn into those whose behavior has been condemned so recently. Ultimately, is it worth wasting energy and nerves on those who use such low methods, and even more so to become like them?
Step 6
However, not only your negative sides and mistakes can be discussed, but also your successes. And while some people dislike even this kind of attention, there is no need to blame those who praise you. Thank them and convince them to try not so hard. And also be happy for yourself and at least a little start to be proud.
