"If you love - prove it!" Have you heard that? For sure. If such a whim sounds serious, it means that the relationship, sadly, has come to an end. Proofs are required only to be required again and again, until the conditions are no longer fulfilled. And yet love really needs proof, and like any work on oneself for the sake of a loved one, proofs have quite objective results.
Instructions
Step 1
Primary love is usually content with little: an understanding look, touch, a bouquet of flowers. But life does not stand still, and it is time to move from words and symbols to actions. At this stage, many, especially men, face difficulties. Thinking about how to prove love, they decide that there should be more words, and gifts - more expensive. After some time, a woman realizes that there is nothing behind the words, except for attracting attention to increasingly expensive gifts and, depending on upbringing, either begins to use this openly, or becomes cold.
Step 2
In the opposite direction, this rule also works. Psychologically immature women remember how their lover once went crazy with their new outfit or hairstyle, how he was amused by reactions to gifts, how he literally tried to turn himself inside out when he was given hints of something more. And the race for symbols begins: outfits, hairstyles, reactions to gifts (the value of which, as mentioned above, is also growing). And a man already has no time to admire his appearance for whole evenings, he has no time to say endless compliments. He quite rightly believes that the conquered heart belongs only to him and the mutual exchange of symbols is enough to keep it warm. Both are mistaken, and the result is clear to anyone. After a few years, such couples either part or live on, but each with his own life, periodically meeting only to go out and exchange symbols of "love". And all because none of the once lovers did not think in good time and did not use the soul. Love-affirming acts are not necessarily gifts of progressive value or flamboyant makeup.
Step 3
If your love is for the two of you, and not for show, then simple things are crucial - attention and understanding. Living together is tiring, that's okay. Home, children, work, life according to the regime - all these are stresses that can kill feelings. The first level of proof of true love is the exchange of responsibilities. If you are a typical husband-earner, who believes that there are "male" and "female" household chores, have fun while your wife is in the store: wash the dishes, wipe the dust, load the clothes into the washing machine or hang things to dry after washing, clean up those scattered by the child toys, vacuum … Any of these actions will take no more than a quarter of an hour, but the relief and pleasure from the realization that you understand how difficult it is to manage the whole household alone will be enough for my wife for the whole day. It is a little more difficult for a woman to cope with men's affairs, but there are enough feasible options. Take on the conversation with your husband's mom, sharpen your knives, download a football match from the Internet that he slept through. The main thing is to do without the ostentatious "Darling, look how great I am!", Otherwise it will turn out that you tried not for her, but for yourself.
Step 4
The second level is the pooling of interests. Remember how at the very beginning you laughed at the same films, went to the same cafes or restaurants, read the same books? Something has probably changed, but love … Do you think that it has survived! Remind yourself and your loved one that the freshness of feelings has no expiration date. Start with a cafe, you can from where you once visited together for the first time. Present a book that your beloved or loved one has long wanted to read, but before that, be sure to read it yourself - there will be something to talk about! How long have you been out together? Just walking down the street or in the park, and not going somewhere in particular? So, take a walk, holding hands and looking around, paying attention to everything that you see and speaking out all your thoughts - after all, this is how you once spent your time.
Step 5
The third level is common affairs. Oddly enough, but living together is the most powerful separating factor. Imperceptibly, day after day, the desire to do at least something without looking back at the partner accumulates. Not meanness, of course, but something so as not to consult, not to make discounts. At home it is almost impossible, and now women go to their friends or to the shops, and men go to friends or to the garage. There are many options, but one way or another, all this is an escape from reality. Try to do the opposite - engage your partner in your interest. You should not consider this as an encroachment on your personal space, the action should be rare, sometimes once is enough. But its beauty is that it is an act that dramatically increases mutual trust. And the trust that you instill is the best proof of love.
