Surprisingly, people create many unpleasant circumstances in their lives themselves. This happens most often because it is most difficult for a person to fight not with other people and not with circumstances, but with his own character. And in a situation where outwardly everything looks good and nothing prevents the successful resolution of the situation, many people still cannot achieve the desired goal, simply because of their indecision, anger, envy, etc.
Instructions
Step 1
Admit to yourself that you are not perfect. This can be difficult and frustrating. You must do this because only a sober look at yourself will help you change.
Step 2
Make a list of situations that you have not dealt with in the past. Remember when you set a goal and failed to achieve it. Write down these goals. For example, "I want to make my loved ones happy." On the next sheet, list the qualities that will help you do this. For example, mindfulness, the ability to sacrifice oneself, caring for others, the ability to share. Return to this list every time you are in doubt about your ability or do not know how to proceed.
Step 3
Create in your head the image of the person you want to become. What qualities does he possess? If you find yourself in a difficult situation, think about how the person you want to become would prove to be in this situation? Perhaps he has more faith in himself, more compassion, wisdom, ingenuity? Try to act in the same way, creating a future "self-image".
Step 4
List any flaws or qualities you don't like about yourself. If you are unhappy with yourself when you are angry, remember your desire to change this quality of yourself when you find yourself in a situation that provokes you to anger.
Step 5
Stop anger with willpower. If it doesn't work out, just leave the room in which the conflict is unfolding or avoid the person who provokes you. Only will and reason will help you cope with negative qualities.
Step 6
Learn to turn everything into a joke. Learn self-irony. Even the smartest people can be unhappy if they can't laugh at themselves. Therefore, reconsider your attitude to this important quality.
Step 7
To change, start acting differently now. Start living like the person you want to become. Show courage. By trying to change for the better, you have nothing to lose. On the contrary, you will learn more about yourself.
