Communication with people in general and with the opposite sex in particular is often hampered by more or less pronounced fear. The reasons and reasons can be completely different: fear to seem awkward, fear of ridicule, fear of misunderstanding … But if you take a good look at those around you, and at yourself, you will understand that there is no threat.
Instructions
Step 1
State your fear as precisely as possible. It is impossible to fight a phantom and there is no fear of everything at the same time. Having found out the essence of your discomfort, you will immediately understand the reason.
Step 2
The next step is getting rid of fear. The oldest and most effective weapon against any kind of fear is laughter. Imagine your fear in the form of the most terrible monster with huge fangs, claws, and an aggressive attitude. Now give it some comic features. Imagine that, despite all his anger, he cannot do anything to you, because he is deprived of the ability to move. Approach it mentally and poke it with your finger. Imagine how it deflates, shrinks, melts. The air comes out of it with a strange and funny sound. Imagine a monster turning into nothing.
Step 3
Counter your behavior to fear: If you are afraid to appear awkward, become awkward on purpose. If you are afraid of ridicule from the girl, make her laugh colic. If you are afraid to seem stupid and uneducated, play the role of a rural idiot. Achieve exactly what you're afraid of, but don't go overboard. First, you are in control of yourself and you can become yourself again at any time; secondly, you see that the results of your mistakes would not be as dire as you thought recently.
Step 4
Anyone is subject to the same fears as you. The girl you want to please is no exception. She will not follow your every gesture and read your mind. Like you, she is focused on herself. She is not at all interested in looking for your flaws and paying attention to mistakes. Observe her: most likely, she herself is mistaken and also feels awkward at some points.
