There are three senses: victim, savior, and aggressor. With their help, you can understand the life triangle of relationships.
A victim is a person who feels helpless, exhausted, a desire to obey someone, a lack of understanding of what is happening, powerlessness and a feeling of indecency.
An aggressor is a person who is confident in himself and in his abilities, he is constantly looking for justice, the desire to punish someone is inherent, as well as how to influence the victim and the savior.
The Savior is a person who wants to help all the time, has feelings of confidence and pity.
From this we can conclude that the first role has to endure bullying. The second role punishes, and the third is trying to save the participants. It should also be understood that while being in such a geometric figure, the individual will in any case perform all the functions. All this can last an unlimited amount of time and has no dependence on the members themselves.
For example, the spouse can no longer endure, the alcohol addict no longer has any desire to drink, and the doctor does not want to deceive the family, which is a favorable way out of the situation. Everything is easy and simple. But everything will depend on the result. It is necessary that at least one of the participants left the triangle, otherwise all can play their roles indefinitely.
Is it possible to leave the triangle? To begin with, you need to figure out in the role of whom the entry was made. There is a concept of "role inversion". For example, an aggressor is perceived as a teacher, a savior is an assistant and companion, and a victim is a student. If a person is inclined to believe that he entered the triangle in the role of a savior, then it is worth getting rid of thoughts that make him act nobly in relation to the victim. In this case, assistance will be provided to the victim, but without any results. After that, the defenseless individual will begin to understand that this can be learned on their own.
There is always a desire to help someone, and this is considered a temptation, it is the sufferer who is considered the seducer. But at the same time, a person becomes a tempter or instigated in relation to the victim, whom he wants to help. Therefore, it is worth giving a chance to do something yourself. Perhaps the first time he will be mistaken, but these will be his mistakes, from which conclusions will be drawn. In the future, there will be no reason for reproach, in which case the victim may turn into an aggressor.
