The roles in Karpman's Triangle are victim, pursuer, rescuer. Many of us experience one of these roles in a variety of ways. What if you realized that you are seriously immersed in one of the roles and cannot find a way out?
Any person himself or with the help of a psychologist may well get out of negative roles. You just need to honestly understand yourself and want to change.
For example, you realize that you have fallen into the role of the victim. It is very important to understand here that many of your actions are not accidental, but are dictated by the desire to relieve responsibility for some areas of your life and enjoy the vivid emotions that the negative situation itself brings. Although emotions are negative, they can also be desired to brighten up your life.
Admit these feelings to yourself and give an honest answer to the question for what it is so difficult for you to be responsible, what exactly you want to shift onto the shoulders of the persecutor. This is a very serious question. Is it difficult for you to be responsible for the relationship, or for some of your manifestations? The topic of responsibility is quite serious and implies a certain personal maturity. One way or another, each of us learns all our lives to take responsibility for some areas of life.
Understand that shifting responsibility is a completely dead-end path. Not a single problem will be resolved along this path. In addition to this, the responsibility that is shifted to the persecutor is not actually accepted by him, only the illusion is created that he is responsible for something.
Now, after such an honest analysis of your motivation, you just need to start taking a little responsibility for those areas of life in which you shifted it to the persecutor. Career failures? It is necessary to gradually look for ways of implementation in the chosen activity. Don't like something about yourself? Learn about ways to correct this manifestation.
If you find yourself in the role of a stalker, start exploring your self-worth. Why do you need to feel superior? Perhaps the reasons lie in family relationships. In this case, it will be useful to undergo a course of psychotherapy. Consider why you need to make someone else to blame for your failures? Maybe it's not too late to do something in life that will allow you to be proud of yourself? Then the need to take out your unfulfillment on someone else will disappear?
If you realized that you were in the role of a savior, then the most sobering thing for you will be the realization of the absence of any positive result in the life of the one you decided to save. You listen to the victim over and over again, and all of your advice to actually change the situation is rejected. Such awareness is able to show the rescuer the illusory nature of his role. Do you need it now?
