After breaking up with a loved one, a person sometimes simply loses the meaning of life, physically feels how vitality, joy, hope, vitality flow out. All that remains is unhealed pain, apathy, and fatigue. And you need to go beyond the vicious depressive circle so that others can lend a helping hand.
Instructions
Step 1
Depression won't help you get your loved one back, make them feel sorry or guilty, or relieve suffering. This condition will only bring you more pain, create fertile ground for a bunch of diseases, and in severe cases, even lead you to a mental hospital. Therefore, start fighting your condition as soon as possible.
Step 2
In the early days, allow yourself to cry, feel sorry for yourself and remember a loved one in the presence of family or friends. If the thought of breaking up is unbearable, do any physical or mental work (mopping, hand washing, renovating, writing term papers, oil painting, knitting).
Step 3
Continue to go to school, work, and do your daily activities, and at the same time do not reduce your efficiency. Walk more, observe a clear diet and daily routine, in the morning eat moderately mood-enhancing foods (chocolate, bananas, dates, peaches, strawberries).
Step 4
After a week of "self-pity" and negative emotions, get rid of all the things that remind you of the past and cause pain. Change the interior completely or add a couple of bright spots (curtains, pillows, paintings, ottomans, decorative gizmos, flowers). Also change your look, from haircuts to shoes.
Step 5
Diversify your life: sign up for dance classes, do yoga, sports, swimming, go on a 10-day hike, lose weight, buy a trip abroad, change jobs. In general, do what you never had time for.
Step 6
Allow yourself to become a happy person again: start smiling again and enjoy life, watch small children - and you will look at many things differently. The main thing is not to withdraw into yourself, do not push away the help of friends and relatives, and do not be silent about your feelings and pain.
Step 7
Please note that only mild depression can be overcome by independent efforts, in the case of prolonged self-flagellation and the appearance of suicidal thoughts, guilt, etc. it is necessary to seek the help of psychotherapists who select methods of therapy (games, group sessions, exercises, art techniques, auto-training), drug treatment.
