Conflicts between parents and children have existed at all times. Even in very good and friendly families, quarrels and disputes are indispensable. But great relationships are characterized not by the absence of conflicts, but by the ability to resolve them.
Instructions
Step 1
Both parents and children become the cause of family conflicts. Parents can be too demanding, authoritarian, put pressure on the child with their will, which will lead to rebellion and disagreement on the part of the son or daughter. The child, too, may think that everyone owes him, and he can do whatever he wants, thus entering into conflict with family traditions and causing disagreement among the parents.
Step 2
In any conflict situation, both parties should remember that on the other side of the dispute is their loved one, who may have their own interests and opinions about the problem. Don't blame your parents for thinking differently from you or disagreeing with your point of view.
Step 3
Make it clear to the end what the conflict situation is. Listen to the parents' side, clarify what exactly they are unhappy with, why it is important to them and how your decision or behavior oppresses their interests. Quite often, parents are used to saying “no” to their children to any action that is contrary to their own habits or traditions. However, upon closer examination, it turns out that, in general, there were no reasons for a quarrel, because the child did not plan anything bad, he just did something in his own way.
Step 4
Often, listening to the problem sharply reduces the conflict nature of the entire situation and prepares the ground for dialogue. You will also speak up, which prompted you to take the action that led to the conflict. It is just as important for parents to hear the child's opinion as to be heard. When you describe your motives and feelings in detail, you can expect your parents to look at your situation from a different angle, they will begin to understand you. If necessary, you can explain to the parents why their anger or concern is unfounded. Perhaps their views on this situation simply do not coincide with yours, which is causing the quarrel.
Step 5
Think about suggestions that might resolve the conflict. Together with your parents, sort out the situation, let them express the most reasonable proposals from their point of view, and you tell about yours. Do not reject any of the suggestions, no matter how inconvenient it may seem.
Step 6
Evaluate all the proposals and choose the best one that suits you and your parents. Do not allow in this situation to resolve the conflict in favor of the parents by sacrificing their own interests, but also do not force the parents to yield to you and find themselves in a less advantageous position. A compromise of interests can be found in any case, no matter how difficult it may be.
