Fathers and children often argue with each other. There is a clash of interests in almost all such relations, but it is important that the conflict does not drag out and does not interfere with the life of the participants. Correct communication will help smooth out contradictions, reach a compromise.
Any little thing can cause misunderstanding between the older and younger generations, but sometimes serious circumstances also arise. In any case, it is necessary to correctly assess the situation, convey your position to the opposite side, and listen to their arguments.
Why parents go to conflict
Most relationship problems arise from inhibitions. The older generation restricts the younger in desires, actions and means. With more experience, they understand that the actions of young people are not promising, unrealistic, or even dangerous to life and health. Of course, both sides can be wrong, but you need to understand that experience is a lot.
If parents do not consent to something, you need to analyze why this is happening. It may seem that they are doing it out of harm, but in fact there are more compelling reasons. For example, they understand that certain actions are dangerous. Sometimes they realize that energy, money will be wasted, and they will not be able to achieve something, and sometimes they anticipate trouble. Imagine yourself in their place, analyze what drives them. Find out what fears or limitations are driving them into conflict.
You can ask Mom and Dad to explain to you the reason for their dissatisfaction, but be prepared to listen to them calmly, and not go on to shout or resentment. Usually they are ready to provide a detailed answer, but not every child can hear and understand it. But it is precisely this knowledge that helps to come to a compromise.
How to resolve the conflict
The very first and most effective way to resolve the conflict is to admit that you were wrong. Even if you don't think so, say it out loud anyway. Sometimes it might even be appropriate to apologize if you've said too much before. Doing so will make the adults listen to your arguments as well. And start to reasonably explain to them what you want, why you do not fulfill their requirements, and what results you expect. If the conflict is due to the lack of cleaning, then you simply cannot find the reasons that will justify you, and having recognized, you will have to keep order. If you want to go somewhere, but they won't let you go, you will need to tell what kind of trip it is, with whom it is, which guarantees your safety.
Since you know the parents' claims, you heard them, all your words will be aimed at reducing their anxiety, reducing anxiety. Find an excuse for all their concerns. Be persuasive and don't raise your voice. Talk about how resolving this issue affects your self-esteem, your success in life, and your relationships with friends. But do not press on pity, but state the facts.
Calm and reasonable conversation is a sign of adult communication. Parents will see that you are capable of such communication, that you can be responsible for your words, that you control your behavior, and this will help resolve the issue.
