Sometimes, like a bolt from the blue, the course of a peaceful life in the family is disrupted. And sometimes it happens so much that you only wonder: after all, yesterday everything was in order, but today a loved one turns into a sworn enemy and the main offender. To avoid such situations, you need to remember that both parties are always to blame for the conflict, and also know the basic rules of behavior in a quarrel that could not be avoided.
No one is immune from conflict in family life. There is nothing reprehensible in this - after all, you connect your life with your husband, and this connection is no less important than relatives, but in many respects more dense and permanent. Conflict in marriage is one of the most painful, since it can be very difficult to forgive a partner, especially if a lot of unnecessary things have been said and done in the heat of the moment.
Of course, it is necessary to start solving family problems with prevention. First of all, each of the participants in the marriage should internally realize one fact that they live next to a person who has his own desires, a sense of dignity, and it is also easy to injure him. Unfortunately, the institution of marriage is not very reliable now, and it is easier for many couples to scatter than to try to adapt to each other and learn to listen to the wishes of the other person. If you fell in love, love the other as yourself, take care of him and defend your choice in front of everyone.
Housekeepers need to know that they should be softer and more accommodating. Researchers have proven that families in which women in the process of a quarrel can switch to a constructive dialogue, abandoning reproaches and accusations, feel much happier. Most domestic violence in fights occurs when a man feels unable to cope with a partner who is losing control. Naturally, it's all about emotions, and it is useful for a woman to learn how to control them. Over time, a man, whose conflict is brought into an adequate channel, will become less aggressive and will ponder his words before using them.
Conflicts are of two types - constructive and destructive. And your task is to transfer the inevitable quarrel into the area of creation, that is, listen, speak, but tell the truth, without exaggerating or minimizing, not using insults and not trying to humiliate your partner.
Be fair and be prepared to admit that you are wrong if you are wrong. Both partners must come to the point of being in dialogue and not taking sides in the conflict. On the one hand, it will preserve a healthy relationship, on the other, it will protect the nerves of both.
During a fight, try not to be distracted by extraneous topics and not to find out all the problems at once. The reason for the conflict itself and nothing else should be clarified and discussed, since you will never come to a constructive solution to the problem in this way, but only make sure and convince your partner more that your marriage is a mistake.
Pay attention to topics on which you have disagreements. Perhaps the problem is in different approaches to life and a lack of understanding of the reasons for this or that behavior. All of this needs to be discussed so that your partner's habits and way of thinking do not become a stumbling block. Learn to accept your spouse as he is, because if he changes, it will only gradually, in view of the fact that you yourself change your attitude towards him.
Do not leave the conflict if it has begun, but try to reduce the level of emotional stress and fully understand the current situation. Never give up halfway, otherwise the problem will remain unresolved and will arise again. Use humor if you can.
Learn to be more tolerant of other people's shortcomings, and then yours will be forgiven. Love your loved ones!
