When a child enters a period of adolescence, he often protests about any reason, and it can be very difficult for adults to find an approach to him. Try to remain patient, learn not only to listen, but also to hear your children, because you adults are much wiser.
Instructions
Step 1
Do not under any circumstances sort things out with your children with the help of screams and scandals. The child simply will not hear you in such a situation and will not be able to understand your position on this or that issue. He will only withdraw even more into himself and will act contrary to you.
Step 2
Better to discuss controversial issues with him in a calm atmosphere. But do not try to force your opinion on children. Listen to them, and only then tell us how you see this situation.
Step 3
Avoid lecturing and preaching. Talking frankly about your youthful views and beliefs can be much more effective. The child will feel a kindred spirit in you and will be able to confide in you, hoping for understanding.
Step 4
Don't show your superiority. Avoid arrogance in communicating with your children, because these are the most dear people for you, who expect from you not claims, but love, affection, care and sympathy.
Step 5
Don't start a conversation with accusations. It is better to tell your child about your concerns about his inappropriate behavior or poor performance. Let him know that you would like to help him with advice or deed.
Step 6
Try to take the side of the child and look at the controversial issue from his position. Perhaps you can admit that he is also right about something. Learn to admit your mistakes and tell your children about it.
Step 7
Do not go into insults during a quarrel if you do not want to hear rudeness in your address. Keep a cool head and a sober mind, learn to control yourself.
Step 8
Never use physical force on your children. By doing this, you will only demonstrate your weakness and finally destroy trusting and good relations with them. Also, consider that your children will not always be weak and defenseless. And if you want relationships to be built on respect and trust, and not on fear and violence, if you want to be loved, cherished and appreciated in old age, treat your children the same way.
Step 9
Remember to tell your child that you love and understand and accept him under any circumstances. Then he can always trust you, and you can avoid conflict situations.
