When they talk about upbringing a personality, they most often mean the formation of a physically, spiritually and mentally developed person who is well adapted in society, knows what he wants to achieve in life, and strives for it. And, of course, parents want their child to grow up strong, self-sufficient, successful. But children do not always live up to the aspirations of the older generation. And adults do not quite clearly imagine how a personality is brought up.
Instructions
Step 1
The child learns life from his parents. From the first days of his existence, he unconsciously copies both gestures and actions, and the manner of behavior of his father and mother. Therefore, if you want your child to develop certain character traits and style of behavior, it is not enough to focus on raising only the child. You shouldn't stop cultivating yourself either.
Step 2
Your child is not an inseparable part of yourself. His umbilical cord has long been cut, and he is a separate, independent person with his own desires and needs. Admit that he will not be able to obey your dictates all his life. He needs to learn to live independently and be able to make the right choice. This applies to desires, actions, choice of profession, life partner, etc. The sooner he learns to make an informed choice, defend his point of view, take responsibility for himself and carry out his plans, the more successful his life will be.
Step 3
Listen carefully to your child and think about the reasons for his actions. You should learn to distinguish whims from anxiety and inability to express what worries him. Doesn't want to eat, sleep or walk? Pay attention to whether everything is in order with his health. Doesn't want to do some work? Try to help him, strengthen his self-confidence. In order for a child to grow up as a full-fledged person, you should not indulge his whims, but his needs should also not be ignored.
Step 4
If your child tries to manipulate you with whims, inappropriate behavior or shouting, do not indulge his ridiculous demands, but try to be calm and balanced. Invite him to think about why he needs it, explain why you can't do it or why you can't do it. The child must understand that not all of his desires are fulfilled immediately, and there is no need to be capricious and yell in order to be heard. In addition, try to convey to his consciousness the fact that he is not alone, that in the family all the pleasures are shared equally, and that you, too, have your desires and needs. When he understands this, he adapts much faster in the children's team and in adult life.
Step 5
Prepare your child to interact with other children and adults. Teach him to share toys, make acquaintances, start a conversation, etc.
Step 6
Be sure to listen to the desires and opinions of your child, especially if you have to solve an issue that concerns him directly. In order for him to respect himself as a person, it is necessary that he understands that he deserves it with his actions and words.
Step 7
Do not neglect the child's help, especially when he offers it himself, and also turn to him more often for help yourself, even if this help is purely symbolic. And if the child starts doing something, do not interrupt him, otherwise he will think that you do not like his work.
Step 8
If you have made a promise to your child, keep your promise. If you are not sure that you can fulfill this, it is better to refrain from promises. This should be your style of behavior, then the child will keep his word.
Step 9
Chat with your child more often. Share with him your knowledge, preferences, thoughts. Be genuinely interested in his thoughts and deeds. Support his interests. He must be aware of your life. And if he understands that his life is not indifferent to you, then he will gladly meet you halfway.
