Often times in our life there are situations when it is simply necessary to win over a stranger, but there is practically no time for this. As psychologists assure, 90% of the impressions about a person are formed in the first 4 minutes of acquaintance and in the future it is very difficult to change the formed attitude, and sometimes it is simply impossible. Therefore, the ability to arouse sympathy from the first meeting becomes vital in many circumstances.
Instructions
Step 1
Very often you can come across the assertion that personal charm, the ability to arouse sympathy and to win people over to oneself is an exclusively innate quality, which either exists or not. And if from birth it is unlucky to possess it, all efforts will be useless. In reality, this is not at all the case. Practical psychologists and coaches who teach successful negotiation trainings argue that the ability to inspire sympathy is a set of skills that are developed during the process of conscious training. It is only important to know the basic techniques and purposefully apply them in practice.
Step 2
In order to easily win over any person, you must follow the following simple rules:
- look good (have a pleasant appearance);
- smile affably and joke appropriately;
- find something in common with the interlocutor and emphasize this in a conversation with him;
- show a sincere interest in a partner and listen carefully.
Step 3
It is important to remember that the requirement to have an attractive appearance does not imply any particular natural beauty or strict adherence to fashion standards. The most important thing is to look neat and stylish. This means that it doesn't matter if you are wearing expensive or cheap clothes. It is important that it is clean, tidy and appropriate to the current situation. Agree that light shorts or jeans with rips will look strange in a business office, just like a strict English suit at a beach party.
Step 4
Hair, nails and teeth should always be clean and well-groomed. It's just not up for debate. Even if there is no money for a good model haircut, the hairstyle should be fresh and styled. If there is not enough time to do a fresh manicure, it is better to remove the varnish altogether than to come with yesterday's flaky one. In other words, neatness and neatness again.
Step 5
It is advisable to always start each new acquaintance with a smile, which in a split second can express a lot of positive feelings: the joy of meeting, openness, desire to communicate, etc. A sincere smile is a real magic wand of charm. The same goes for humor. A light joke can create a relaxed atmosphere, bring the interlocutors closer, demonstrate openness to contact. However, it is very important that jokes are always relevant and understandable to all parties involved. If you are not very confident in your sense of humor, it is better to refrain from trying to joke, so as not to accidentally offend the other person or put him in an awkward position.
Step 6
The easiest and most effective way to win over a person is to show genuine interest in him. Ask him questions about himself and his affairs, listen carefully, express your support and approval with light gestures and short remarks. As a result of these simple tricks, your new acquaintance will come to the conclusion that you are the most charming and wonderful companion of everyone he has ever met.
