So, no romantic preamble - a guy dumped you. Tough, real. Your far-reaching plans have been destroyed, your bright prospects have faded, your intentions are chaotic. But you can't help but act!
Necessary
Ghost in white, beggar for love, Mexican passions, serious decisions
Instructions
Step 1
Ghost in white
A guy dumped you, and you create creepy pictures in your imagination. “If I’m going to commit suicide, let him suffer,” so many think, especially adolescents, who experience all life catastrophes much more acutely than adult girls. At the heart of such an intention is always a feeling of revenge and an attempt to make everyone pay attention to the fact that you exist and to your pain, which is unbearable! However, instead of feverishly coming up with ways to effectively leave life that suit you perfectly, let's look at it from the outside. Let's imagine what will happen after you, young and wonderful, are gone. He, young and certainly handsome, will be shocked. Perhaps he will even regret what he did. Of course, he will remember you all his life! You will be like a "ghost in white" for everyone. But time will pass, and he will have another girlfriend. Perhaps they will get married and she will give birth to his children. And your fatal and sad image, alas, will rather fade and be forgotten among the diaper-vests, work, daily bustle and new love. Friends will remember you with sadness, especially when they slam a glass or two, share their opinions about your tragic and absurd life, feel sorry for you. Note that people love tragic stories with sad outcomes. Why? No matter. After all, it is their children who will play in the sandbox and collect shells on the seashore. Not yours. And the most unpleasant thing: death, especially such, is disgusting. It will not make you more beautiful, but on the contrary, it will disfigure you. And he will never return to you what you want to return at any cost - to be by his side. Do you need it?
Step 2
Beggar for love
The suicide is canceled. You decide to get a meeting and talk. Begging me to give you one last chance. You try to blackmail him, putting pressure on your conscience and shifting responsibility for your own future onto his shoulders. You can even quote the famous aphorism from "The Little Prince" by Antoine Saint-Exupery: they say, we are responsible for those we tame. You promise that you will fulfill all his desires, never be jealous, not argue with him, endure his antics. You beat on pity, shed a sea of tears, vow to become a resigned gentle rug at his door. In general, this tactic sometimes works. Compassion is stirring in him and … masculine conceit is growing. After doomed sighs and hesitation, he generously agrees to "try to start over." And your role now is to patiently and humbly deserve love, to beg for his precious attention and to behave quieter than water, below the grass. Until either he or you get tired of it, of course. In the end, he will leave you. This time it was final and irrevocable. You can, of course, try to insure yourself against this - for example, give birth to his child. Perhaps you will marry him - but where can he, my dear, go? But all your life to feel unloved, not to feel the only one, desired, to come to terms with the fact that you will be unhappy in advance - agree, an unenviable prospect. Do you need it?
Step 3
Mexican passions
Of course not! The role of a beggar is clearly not suitable for you. You will act boldly, boldly and even arrogantly. You will bring your appearance into the state of a hunter for men, dress stylishly, infiltrate his circle of acquaintances and start an affair. For example - with his best friend. To spite my ex-boyfriend. Jealousy provoked sometimes works wonders. This path is especially effective if he has a girlfriend, and they are together where you are. You will intersect quite often, you will portray the happy companion of his friend, with graceful but sensitive hairpins, bring your rival to white heat, emphasizing your superiority and her terrible flaws, your ultra-fashionable style and her gaudy outfit, your wit and her impenetrable stupidity. Finally, he will see how cruelly he made a mistake, exchanging you for this mediocre, gray as a mouse creature! And you will take revenge, consistently, sweetly, with demonic delight, making it clear that there is no turning back and “the train has left,” but with all your appearance, personifying a sexual challenge and cruel ridicule. You will torture him subtly, humiliating his girlfriend and thereby humiliating him. It is possible that the insidious plan will work, and the guy will surrender under the undeniable avalanche of your provocations. As a result, everyone will quarrel: your ex - with the girlfriend, his friend - with him, and maybe with you. Perhaps you will achieve your goal and return your chosen one among these ruins of the former relationship of several people. If you are a fan of Mexican TV series, then you can give it a try. True, having got you as a battle trophy, your boyfriend may lose interest in you. This usually happens with men who like "Mexican passions." Do you need it?
Step 4
Seriously?
What if your boyfriend dumped you? First, don't despair. There are two options: either this is a quarrel from the category of "darlings scold - only amuse themselves", and the situation takes time for emotions to subside, or - he does not love you, or you simply do not fit each other.
There are no “right” recipes here. But "as not necessary" - this is a separate conversation.
First. Don't call him every ten minutes, don't bomb him with tragic sms. Give him time to deal with his feelings.
Second. Put aside your grievances and analyze what happened. Take a piece of paper and write it out in two columns: first, what does not suit you in it, and then what, in your opinion, annoys him in you. This will make it easier to form a more or less objective picture in your head and understand what led to the breakup.
Third. Take care of yourself. Get yourself in perfect order both externally and internally. Take a break from an unpleasant situation for a while and try to find in your life something that interests you, in addition to your relationship with this person. Are you into photography? Do you draw with ink or write poetry? Do you blog? Do you like kayaking? Remember your hobbies. Try to find support outside your personal relationship with him. The more independent a woman is, the more interest the opposite stronger sex has in her.
Fourth. Try to calm down and talk to him. But don't cry. Men are afraid of women's tears and are ready to escape to the ends of the world from difficult scenes. And if he doesn't love you, tears won't help much. Don't ask for anything, don't humiliate yourself. Having humiliated yourself once, you will give a reason to humiliate yourself in the future. Try to speak calmly and frankly. And if you are convinced that he does not love you, you should not make a scene, liken yourself to furies with curses on their lips. Men hate hysterics! Smile. And, no matter how hard it is, say something neutral: “I was wrong about you. Sorry …”Or something like that. Men are offended by such coldish restraint much more than a primitive insult. And you can give vent to tears after, when no one sees you.
Fifth and last. Try to understand that unions between a man and a woman are not accidental. And the experience that we gain by communicating, loving each other, and sometimes getting burned, makes us smarter and stronger. If after such a conversation he does not look for you, does not call, distance yourself from him. Try changing your surroundings to deal with the pain. Over time, it will cease to be painful. You will keep your dignity - and that's a lot. Plus, you'll be free!
Look around. Be bright and natural. Men pay attention to you, and among them, for sure, there will be someone who will appreciate your soul and external attractiveness in you. Someone with whom you can build a happy future together. If, of course, you take into account the negative experience and your mistakes. Psychologists say that falling in love again is much easier when the heart has not yet cooled down from previous love. Then it is much more difficult to do it. Just do not forget that the main thing in love is to give and to give, to respect each other's personal space, and not to try to take, get and possess, trying to reshape a person for the sake of their own comfort.
