The first sensations after breaking up with your beloved are shock, pain, loss. This is a normal state of a person who loses something important, but it is also normal to want to get rid of this stupor. Life does not stop at the end of a relationship, and you will understand this if you distract from your own suffering.
Instructions
Step 1
Get distracted. Take care of things that have been postponed for a long time: repairs, a trip to another city. Switch to hobbies and socializing with friends. In the early days, they will keep you from depression and blues, and then they will distract you from difficult memories. Do not withdraw into yourself: you will be completely overwhelmed by memories and regrets that cannot be returned.
Step 2
Don't look for the right and the wrong. If the breakup was accompanied by a scandal, then both of you are to blame. Over time, you will understand which of you was wrong about what, how it could have been avoided, and whether it was possible at all. In the meantime, psychoanalysis will not help you: memories are too fresh and emotions are too vivid.
Step 3
Do not deny yourself small pleasures: visit cafes, movies, and other entertainment venues. They will also help you distract yourself for a while.
Step 4
Limit contact with your ex. If you work together, then adjust your schedule so that "overlap" as little as possible. It is difficult for both of you to get used to the new way of life, and the return of the old one will further exacerbate the fracture and the desire to return to the previous rut.
Step 5
Don't try to find out how she's getting through the breakup. In general, think less about her and, moreover, do not follow her fate for some time until you calm down. Your feelings for her are still strong, so you will suffer from any information about her. If she is resting, meeting with another, enjoying life, you will focus even more on self-pity, and the girl will begin to blame for all mortal sins. If she experiences, like you, there will be a desire to return the old relationship, although they have exhausted themselves and will not bring anything but torment.
Step 6
Accept breakup as a necessary, albeit painful period in your life. You got everything you could from each other, learned everything you needed. Further life together would bring you even more suffering or nothing at all.
Step 7
Pay attention to other girls. You are still beautiful, full of energy, smart, interesting for beautiful women of the opposite sex. You don't have to start a new romance right after breaking up. Just show non-binding courtesies to other women. The care that you previously gave to only one, now distribute to others.
