Sometimes tightness or natural modesty pose insurmountable barriers to achieving goals in your personal life and career. To get rid of shyness, you need to love yourself and let others get to know you better.
Instructions
Step 1
Think about what is causing you to be shy. The reasons, of course, may be different, but the most common are their own complexes and the fear that they will treat you negatively, they will not understand you. With complexes, you can not only fight, but also turn their cause into an advantage. As for the fear of looking funny, you never know if people like you until you initiate communication.
Step 2
Remember that you are losing a lot. Being embarrassed, you deprive yourself of the opportunity to find interesting interlocutors, make friends, advance in the service, perhaps meet the other half. The most that you risk when you take the initiative and start communicating first is the first impression, but it can also be corrected.
Step 3
Develop. If once or twice you were unable to keep up the conversation, this does not mean that you are uneducated or stupid. Believe me, in many areas you will give odds to even the greatest clever men and women. You can just start small - try to learn how to communicate with people who are close in spirit and hobbies, and when your self-confidence grows, switch to other groups of people. Of course, this must be accompanied by a daily educational process.
Step 4
Set yourself achievable goals. In the evening, come up with a task for yourself, for example, start a light conversation with the office staff about a new exhibition, an important match, a political situation, whatever. Give yourself good points in case of successful execution of the plan, but if the situation did not go the way you wanted, do the work on the mistakes and do not give up. Daily training will help you gain communication skills and increase your self-esteem, it is just important to treat this as a kind of game, and not offend people by dragging them into your "strength tests".
Step 5
Radiate warmth and positive emotions. Even a simple smile attracts the interlocutor, you will not notice how people will be drawn to you, and there will be no trace of the former embarrassment.
