Shyness is a problem for many people. They cannot speak with those whom they know little, they are nervous in society, and when communicating, they feel an increased heartbeat, trembling and fear. Shy people have difficulties in building a career, building friendships and partnerships, and in many other areas of life, so it is an important task to stop being shy about people.
Instructions
Step 1
Scientists investigated shyness and came to the conclusion that this quality is not at all innate, it is the result of any life circumstances of a person, because of which he focuses too much on himself. After all, embarrassment is an excessive concentration on one's own personality and inner anxiety, on various thoughts and complexes that appear in a person. Note that this is exactly what you have to get rid of.
Step 2
Find self-confidence. To overcome shyness, you need to understand that you are the person who has something to be proud of. Be confident, as all people are more focused on themselves than on other people's shortcomings.
Step 3
Almost all people experience severe shyness not all the time, but in certain situations. Think about which ways of human communication and company give you the greatest fears, where you feel more uncomfortable. Choose the easiest situations and try to gain a foothold in them for a start, behaving calmly.
Step 4
Stop focusing on yourself, try to pay more attention to the people around you. Think about the course of the conversation and the circumstances, not about what you said or did something wrong, what you are wearing the wrong way, etc.
Step 5
You should not compare yourself to others. In every person, you can find a quality or detail of appearance that is better than yours. But you also have advantages that other people do not have. Everyone is better at something. It's pointless to compare. You pay attention to your own shortcomings and forget about the merits, so you feel embarrassed.
Step 6
You have a comfort zone in which you feel calm and confident - these are close and familiar people. Expand this area. Chat with strangers, attend social events, meet new people. Do the things that you always wanted to do, but did not dare. You yourself will not notice how the number of reasons for pride outweighs the percentage of mistakes and perceived shortcomings.
Step 7
Take an example from those who are confident in themselves. They behave naturally and calmly, look at them, observe and try to learn important communication skills. Very often, the lion's share of success in society lies in smiling and making eye contact.
Step 8
Learn to relax. Use breathing techniques, meditation, self-hypnosis - try several options and find what is guaranteed to work in your case. In the company from time to time, do not forget to relax, this will help you to behave simply and naturally.
