The habit of idealizing people, excessive demands on others can lead to serious disappointment in them. However, you may not be deceived in your own expectations, you just need to be able to relate them to reality.
It is necessary
consultation of a psychologist
Instructions
Step 1
Analyze why you are disappointed in people? What exactly does not suit you about them? Remember that those around you do not have to live up to your expectations. For example, you expect your friend to do something and think he shouldn't do otherwise. But your friend might ask you a very logical question: “Why should I do this? Because you so want?"
Step 2
Do not make excessive demands on the people around you, each person may have any problems that prevent him from performing this or that expected action. Remember also about the weaknesses, complexes, etc., which are found in every person.
Step 3
Do not seek to idealize people, do not create idols for yourself. Many families break up precisely because of mutual disappointments. But why do they happen? The thing is that before marriage, many people are so fascinated by each other that they cannot objectively evaluate the object of love. But after a certain time, the veil falls from the eyes, and the spouses draw conclusions about each other, see that they are not so perfect. Therefore, try to immediately soberly assess all the advantages and disadvantages of a person. In doing so, remember that only God is perfect.
Step 4
Learn to forgive. If the person did not do what you expected, do not rush to draw conclusions and be disappointed. Lend a helping hand to a friend or comrade who is in a difficult life situation. Do not refuse sympathy, support, mutual understanding. Sometimes a person really needs it, it is just necessary to hear kind words of support from someone, and not cold words: "I am disappointed in you."
Step 5
Think about how you yourself act in relation to other people? Do you disappoint any of them? It is likely that someone is also expecting something from you, and you may not even know about it. It is much easier to be disappointed than not to disappoint, which is probably why there are so many people who are offended by someone around.
Step 6
Tell others what you expect from them. Hints and other tricks can be used. For example, let's say you want your boyfriend to give you some decoration for your birthday, not just another teddy bear. You cherish this dream, keep silent and smile mysteriously, and when your holiday comes, you solemnly receive a huge teddy bear. Disappointment comes, the reason for which is that you do not take into account one fact: no one can read other people's thoughts. Guys are usually not very discerning and often have no idea what exactly you would like to receive as a gift. Your subtle hint, for example: “Honey, does this dress suit me? I will wear it for my birthday, only this deep neckline embarrasses me, you need a necklace or something like that, but I don’t have such a piece of jewelry …”I could have prevented such a situation.
Step 7
If you are very upset with someone you are feeling depressed about, see an experienced counselor about the problem. He will definitely help you cope with mental pain and return to a fulfilling, happy life.
