To please by correspondence, you can use the same methods as with direct communication. We do not see the interlocutor, but the language of correspondence is rich enough and can convey the whole range of feelings and impressions.
It is necessary
Computer with internet connection, sheet of paper, pen
Instructions
Step 1
Radiate positivity and benevolence; Be polite. Lead the role of the person for whom the glass is half full. Try not to use categorical negative expressions, keep the number of "no" words to a minimum. On the other hand, do not overdo it so as not to appear as a frivolous rake.
Step 2
Call the person by name as often as possible - it works wonders! Remember the advice of Dale Carnegie, who wrote that "A person's name is the sweetest and most important sound to him." Avoid whispering and loose interpretations of the interlocutor's name if you do not correspond for a long time.
Step 3
Be attentive and interested. Record important dates and events for the interlocutor; insert quotes from your past emails from time to time. Show that everything about it is important to you. Do this carefully and non-intrusively, otherwise the interlocutor may think that you are sucking up or simply lacking your own opinion.
Step 4
Show confidence, emphasize your identity. Whenever possible, describe your hobbies and characteristics a little at a time. Do this in moderation and with the understanding that the interlocutor is really interested in it. Remember that self-confidence and self-confidence are completely opposite states.
Step 5
Joke, but be careful. First, feel how well the interlocutor has developed a sense of humor and whether it coincides with yours, so as not to be considered a clown. At the beginning of correspondence, it is better to narrow the boundaries of jokes so that inadvertently your humor does not turn against you.
Step 6
Identify dangerous topics for correspondence. Don't get personal. Discuss intimate, related, racial and religious topics and gossip with caution.
Step 7
Write compliments to the interlocutor, but in moderation and sincere. No need to shower it with adjectives with Caucasian generosity and fix it with two dozen emoticons. Never flatter the other person.
Step 8
Emphasize what you have in common. Find a “common wave” and give yourself up to emotions; share experiences, impressions, comparisons. Enjoy writing as many paragraphs as you can from the bottom of your heart.
Step 9
Encourage the person to talk about themselves: ask questions, clarify. If you feel that you can offer him advice or comment, do it politely and correctly. At the same time, do not forget that correspondence is a reciprocal process and do not allow it to turn into a “vest” or a listener to a “radio without a switch”.
