Everyone wants to be loved and respected. But for some people, the need to please everyone is so strong that many life decisions are made by them based on how strong the approval of others will be. Such lack of independence suggests that a person is extremely insecure.
Instructions
Step 1
An excessive desire to please everyone can be caused by a whole complex of reasons, and in order to understand what exactly is your main problem, you need to be very honest with yourself to the question: what does the need for public approval mean to me? What is hidden behind the desire to be liked? Perhaps you had parents who were too strict and demanded too much? Or your self-esteem is so low that you are extremely insecure. To feel good and relaxed, you need to know that you are loved. This is the most common reason.
Step 2
Build your self-esteem, love yourself. If you yourself are not sure that you deserve love and sympathy, then the only confirmation of the importance for you is the opinion of others. But when you start to love and appreciate yourself, then the need to constantly feel that you mean a lot to others will disappear by itself. You will begin to feel that you are right, even when everyone else does not share your opinion.
Step 3
To please everyone, without exception, is very difficult, it is much more difficult than just being yourself and behaving naturally. No matter how hard you try to earn the respect and sympathy of everyone around you, it still won't work, since everyone has their own views on what kind of person you should be. They will demand the impossible from you, so that such a desire can only lead to a nervous breakdown.
Step 4
It happens that a person wants to be loved by everyone, because he himself is very sensitive, and any manifestation of aggression or indifference is perceived by him painfully. If so, try to be calm. Most likely, many of those who sympathize with you simply do not talk about it. Most people do not seek to compliment or praise others for good decisions. But to express criticism, there is usually a whole line of people who wish. Just take it for granted. If people every now and then do not show their affection for you, then this does not mean that they do not like you.
Step 5
Realize that people are arranged in such a way that they value more not those who are ready to give in and please them in everything, but those who have their own opinion on many issues, who do their job, despite difficulties and failures. Be yourself, follow your needs and ideals, and the number of people who truly admire you will increase markedly, even though you no longer feel the need to do so.
