Cheating on a loved one is a betrayal. And betrayal, as you know, is not forgiven. Nevertheless, many people turn a blind eye to the betrayal of their halves.
Open marriage
There are several types of relationships that are characterized by this situation. The most harmless option: a partnership based on mutual interest, benefit, without emotional overtones. People have long grown cold to each other or have never experienced ardent feelings that imply loyalty. In this case, there is nothing to forgive: partners are independent and satisfy their desires without being interested in the personal life of the other side. It is unlikely that such a union can be called happy, but it is based on free choice. But more difficult situations are dangerous in that they restrict the freedom of one of the couple.
Physical addiction
To change, you need to have certain qualities: sexuality, charm, sociability, great experience. It is not easy to part with a traitor who is a bright personality, gives new emotions and “dizzy”: such people know how to give pleasure and “tie” to themselves, and their promises are so easy to believe! As a rule, their halves sincerely love, suffer a lot, but cannot cope with their weakness and forgive, forgive, forgive … until the situation reaches a critical point, when the spell dissipates, and African passion is replaced by indifference to the traitor.
Unnecessary sacrifices
Fear of loneliness, doubts about one's attractiveness, feelings of guilt are signs of low self-esteem. Such people will forgive anything, including betrayal. They are accustomed to the position of the victim, they cannot fight for their interests. Their partners take advantage of this depression and enjoy themselves. And the victim even gets satisfaction, forgiving another humiliation, convincing himself that he is doing it out of nobility or in the name of the family. In addition, victims need the compassion of others - this is the only "language" available to them for communicating with the world, so that another betrayal becomes almost long-awaited: it makes it possible to complain about fate, to get sympathy and attention to oneself. Here you can advise to contact a professional psychologist who will help the victim to gain self-esteem and learn to live happily.
Bad upbringing
Infidelity is often viewed as the norm. The well-known "truths" - "They change everything", "The leftist strengthens the marriage", "Wherever he walks, he comes back to me" - depict treason as a trifle, because of which it is impossible to destroy a relationship or deprive your child of a full-fledged family.
Often, children see the betrayal of their parents and believe that it cannot be otherwise. As a rule, people with such an attitude to loyalty not only forgive betrayal, but they themselves are not averse to taking a walk on the side, but this does not give them happiness. They are dependent on public opinion, their relatives, prejudices … They are used to suppressing feelings about the infidelity of the other half, which only exacerbates the problem. They should look around them to understand: there are many couples who have found love and family after going through a divorce. If a relationship hurts, it must be ended, and children must always see a loving and loyal man and a woman in front of them in order to grow up to be happy people.
