It is common for every person to analyze their actions. But for many, healthy criticism turns into torture when the line is lost between a sober assessment of their own capabilities and accusations of personal failures.
Instructions
Step 1
Living with a Samoyed is difficult. Being a Samoyed is even more difficult. Such people constantly blame themselves for big and small mistakes, thereby reducing their own self-esteem. If you make a serious mistake, try to fix it, rather than torment yourself with meaningless remorse. If you insulted someone - apologize, if you made a slip - get better if you stumbled and fell on your face - just forget about it.
Step 2
Some Samoyeds go so far as to mercilessly "gnaw" themselves from the inside, even if they simply find themselves in an absurd situation. For example, at an important performance, your tongue got tangled and you uttered some kind of pun, slipped on the way out of the house in winter, pinched someone's dress by the door, spilled a cocktail on yourself … The worst thing for a Samoyed is to hear someone laughing behind your back. Find a sense of humor in yourself and laugh at yourself. Work on the lightness of your own character. Anyone could be in your place, so why would you spoil your mood?
Step 3
When all attempts to rectify the situation have not helped to get rid of self-criticism, find yourself a pleasant activity to distract yourself, otherwise nothing will be left of you but heavy sighs. Think about a hobby, read your favorite book, take care of the house, invite guests or go to visit yourself, stir. It is good if you visit those places where emotional passions "boil": cheer at a football match, cry in the theater, argue on talk shows, shout at an extreme attraction. These shakes will give an effective discharge and help to distract from bad thoughts.
Step 4
Take your free time as much as possible so that you simply do not have extra hours left for endless self-flagellation. Set goals and achieve them, but do not turn your life into a solid proof of your own power or others. And if something does not work out, look for the reason for the mistake, and do not throw yourself on yourself with a stream of reproaches.
