"He's cold as ice!" - so they usually say about a callous, indifferent person who does not show emotions. But coldness can be both real (due to selfishness, arrogance), and imaginary, for example, due to shyness, when communication with other people is difficult for a person. However, such a person, in any case, does not hurt to be more sensitive, emotional.
Instructions
Step 1
“A smile will make everyone feel warmer,” says a song from a good old cartoon. This is indeed the case. Try to smile more often, and you yourself will soon see that the number of people who consider you cold and callous has noticeably decreased. Even if you are not in the mood or upset about something, smile. And you will notice how your soul will feel better.
Step 2
Nobody demands that you literally break your character, habits. But still try to be a little more attentive to those around you, at least sometimes take an interest in their affairs, problems, start conversations, even on the most neutral topics. You have to become open to others.
Step 3
Education also plays an important role. If the parents in the family behaved with restraint, did not show emotions in public, the child often takes an example from them. Did your parents instill in you that you must always be restrained, keep your emotions under strict control? Think: is it really necessary? After all, you are an adult, independent person, you have your own personal life. Love for parents does not mean at all that it is necessary to copy their habits and behavior down to the smallest detail. Feel free to show your emotions - in the right place and at the right time, of course.
Step 4
If you are a shy person and find it difficult to make contact with other people, resort to self-hypnosis. Regularly convince yourself that there is nothing wrong if you enter into a conversation or turn to someone with a question, request, the world will not turn upside down from this. As a last resort, seek the advice of a qualified psychologist. A specialist will be able to figure out what is the reason for your coldness, and will help you eliminate it.
Step 5
Try to get positive emotions wherever possible. Watch comedy films, humorous programs, read funny stories, collections of anecdotes, go to KVN. The more often you laugh, the faster and easier it will be to learn to show emotions in public. And then hardly anyone will call you a cold and callous person!
Step 6
Get a dog or other pet if possible. Even a very restrained and indifferent person, communicating with his pet, walking with him, involuntarily thaws. Especially if he feels that the animal truly loves him and is truly attached to him. Help stray animals, and you will see that the world is not so cold and alien, that kindness and compassion are answered with love.
