Being overly shy can create a lot of difficulties at any age. Timid children find it difficult to adapt in kindergarten or school. As an adult, it is not uncommon for a shy person to encounter problems at school or at work. How can you get rid of increased shyness, become at least a little more self-confident?
A shy person in some cases can give the impression of a reserved, non-conflict and modest person. And if it is very convenient for outsiders to communicate with a timid comrade, then to the person himself, his shyness can bring many difficulties. When this trait is too strongly developed, work with a psychologist may be required. However, even in this case, you should try to independently take some steps towards getting rid of increased shyness.
How to overcome shyness
Self-training or the habit of saying affirmations can help to overcome indecision and shyness. If you cannot independently compose a suitable and working text of attitudes, you can use ready-made options from psychological books or start listening to affirmations in audio format, they are easy to find in the public domain on the Internet. Such a method of dealing with shyness can really turn out to be effective and working, the main thing is to take it seriously, try not to doubt the result and devote time to it every day for at least a month and a half, without missing days.
It is very important to try to develop self-love, self-respect. Try to find something that makes you stand out from other people. Believe me, such traits and qualities really exist in every person, the main thing is to look deeper and more closely inside yourself. Developing love and sympathy for oneself helps to increase self-esteem, on which shyness often depends.
Visualization is another psychological technique that can be extremely effective in combating shyness. As with attitudes, you need to practice visualization seriously, consciously, and for at least 30-40 days in a row. Give yourself 15-20 minutes of time every day to be alone with yourself and immerse yourself in the world of imagination. Visualize yourself as a successful, relaxed, confident person in yourself and your strengths.
Refuse to compare yourself to other people. Try to stop imitating anyone. You can look up to any authoritative personalities for you, but you should not try to become these personalities. Find within yourself unique traits, talents, inclinations, even if they are reliably hidden under the guise of shyness, and try to develop, strengthen, reveal them.
Work through the problem of the internal critic, if he is extremely active with you, poisons life with his comments and diligently lowers self-esteem. You should not completely reject the criticism within you, you should not try to deny it or destroy it. Sometimes an inner critic can be useful: he saves from rash and dangerous actions, reduces the propensity to take risks. But its effects should not be toxic. Allow your inner critic to be active no more than 10 minutes a day, behave with him not as an enemy, but as a friend, whose advice you listen to, but you do not have to indulge him and follow all his recommendations.
Shyness is often accompanied by multiple fears. Avoiding situations that trigger a wave of shyness will not help build character. Therefore, try not to run away from exciting and uncomfortable circumstances. Learn to deal with them, accept them. And never scold yourself if something went wrong.
Get in the habit of relaxing regularly with meditation, aromatherapy, and various relaxation techniques. Master the art of proper breathing, which will help relieve tension, relieve anxiety in any uncomfortable situation for you.
It is very important to fully understand where your shyness comes from. Talk honestly with yourself and try to get to the root cause, and then - eradicate it.
