For a long time Masha believed that motivation is the basis of all human actions. And if at some point I didn’t want anything at all, I thought that it was simply not enough. Then motivating books, films went into battle, positive moments from the past were recalled, and, as if by a wave of a magic wand, the charge was received, and the movement continued.
The fact that the charge did not last long, and a new stage of devastation came, for some reason did not bother Masha, and the following tools went into battle - new hobbies, switching attention, changing activities. And so in a circle.
Fortunately, motivation still works, and Masha's desire to find answers and understand the whole nature of things revealed another, no less important component of moving forward - internal forces and internal energy. And this, as it turned out, is a much more serious natural ally.
Masha has repeatedly noticed that she lacks motivation, meaning in life, goals, and even more lacks the strength to start anything. And sometimes it happened that it seemed like I wanted to do something, like there was a resource, but there was no understanding of where to direct oneself.
A friend's cars also told similar situations about themselves, when in the morning or on weekends they had a million ideas and plans, and after work / school, the only desire was to crawl home, flop on the sofa and watch TV. Girlfriends agreed with Masha that putting off things until later, they often felt guilty for a day spent idle, and that time was running out. Thoughts and excuses arose in my head: next weekend; oh, it's just time to go on vacation; I will definitely do it tomorrow; I just need to sleep; or maybe it's not mine at all.
This happened more than once, but the sleepy state did not go away, things were not done, everything began to annoy and enrage. Masha did not calm down in her question and asked other people, receiving new answers: “Now such a period is strange, I also sleep badly, still a child, these traffic jams are eternal. It's a sin for you to complain! " Or: “You just need motivation. Watch this movie / read the book, it helped me! Cheerfulness beats over the edge! ". Another: “Try to think only about the good, look for positive moments in your life, then you will start to love her, it helps me,” while the person at the first unplanned contact with people swears, growls and stomps his feet.
Masha repeatedly tried to set herself up, to motivate, to let go of the situation, to think only of the good, but this did not add to her strength or did it for a short time. In the end, Masha began to sleep for 12-14 hours, she was too lazy to go to work, apathy and complete devastation set in, life was only on weekends and holidays. She was looking and looking for motivation and strength, but after each success there came a period of even greater defeat.
As a result, self-flagellation began - if I had it; he is lucky, he has his own apartment; I am not respected at all at work and only used, you work for them, you work, and life passes by, there would be no work; she's always doing well, because she got married successfully, she smiles on social networks, where am I to her, and so on. It is not surprising that after such thoughts, Masha's condition became even more deplorable, and her strength seemed to be packing her suitcases and moving to another owner.
Masha understood that with each attempt these methods were losing their charm and relevance more and more, and stopped experimenting with motivation.
So the years passed, and at one of the trainings Masha heard another interesting and a little turned inside out thought - it turns out that in order to have strength, it is necessary to stop wasting it on unnecessary nonsense. In other words, if you throw out the superfluous from life, close the "leak" of forces, then they will persist and will definitely go on the right track. It sounded, of course, trite and simple, but Masha did not at all understand how to apply this to herself personally.
The fact is that Masha has not had any cherished desires for a long time. It generally seemed to her that this was unnecessary. She had, so to speak, spiritual riches (kindness, mercy, self-giving, etc.), only they, in her opinion, deserved real attention. Reading oriental literature and esotericism, Masha found confirmation of this, reassurance, and instead of living for herself, she helped everyone around and distributed her resources (material and spiritual). For example, when a friend called her with a request to urgently see and talk, because she is very sad and bad (her husband does not like it, there is a blockage at work, etc.), Masha, stepping over her plans, most often went to a meeting completely devastated. The most interesting thing is that it was in such situations that it turned out that a friend was late, because she was at some procedure for herself, she came happy and elated, and Masha was even more exhausted.
In the material sphere, Masha generally had everything "fine". She thought that she did not need funds (she had enough for food), but for her parents for a mortgage, oh, right, so Masha, without regretting, with a full sense of duty, gave them most of the funds. At the same time, the money was given to repay the loan, but in fact was spent on current needs. Only later did Masha realize that this is really draining.
From the outside, of course, all this is visible and surprising, but it is interesting that almost every person, to one degree or another, does the same. For example, he can help a colleague when he asks, but in reality he is not at all up to him. Step over yourself to fulfill the boss's instructions. To attend uninteresting events, because he made a promise or is it relatives, and you cannot not go, although you have no strength at all. To do something through force at the grandmother's or at the mother's place, so as not to offend. To give the last money in debt, because it is a friend and it is difficult to refuse. You can enumerate endlessly, but the result is the same - a person completely depletes resources, does not have time to accumulate, and there is nowhere to accumulate, because the brain works only for what others need, and not for their beloved.
It was difficult to open her eyes to her life, but Masha admitted it.
Now, every morning or before any activity with friends, she practices the following beautiful and simple exercise: Masha imagines that there is a vessel with a store of energy inside her body. This vessel is located in the solar plexus area, in the area between the navel and the throat (different for each). It is more pleasant for Masha to imagine him in the form of a transparent flask with a round base and a narrow neck, but she knows that her friend Zhenya, for example, imagines a beaker, and Inna - a decanter, as in Arab fairy tales. For Vasya's friend, the idea of the vessel was difficult, so he imagined that he, like his smartphone, has a battery and a visualized level of charge (what can I say, each person has his own visual representations).
Having “placed” the vessel (battery) in its rightful place, in the chest area, Masha imagines that it contains a special substance - energy at the current moment. Masha must feel the level of substance, state, color, as well as other features that can only be. It is important to note that the process is quite intimate, so at these minutes Masha tries to be in a secluded and safe place so that nothing distracts during the sacrament. She often closes her eyes for greater effect and shortened exercise time. then sensations are sharpened, and attention is not scattered on something unnecessary.
Masha more than once checked the most important rule of this exercise on herself and on her friends - the vessel (battery) should always be full to the brim. Not half, not 70%, but 100%. And it's even better when it boils and flows out of it. This can be compared to a very pleasant feeling when happiness is overflowing and you want to share it with the whole world. Now, having learned to keep track of such moments, Masha calmly plans meetings with her friends in order to cheer them up and support them, and also helps colleagues and loved ones.
The second rule that Masha follows steadily is to regularly check the level of the substance. If the liquid only diminishes, then it without remorse switches to something that fills it, for example, a warm bubble bath, an episode of your favorite TV series or a good soulful film in a pleasant company, drawing. Using this technique, Masha has already clearly begun to recognize the positive and negative effects of the environment on her energy, and has also easily learned to plan her life. For example, if she has a difficult meeting or meeting, which is often devastating, she will book the evening before that day in comfort for herself. And, having discussed this technique with friends, Masha now does not hesitate to say that her energy is close to zero and there is absolutely no strength to meet, friends understand this by themselves and calmly wait for the right moment.
Masha accepts the fact that she cannot yet throw out all the moments that devastate her from life, but now she knows them for sure and is always ready to meet them face to face. Adding more and more positively influencing activities to her life, as well as constantly compensating for the losses, she discovers what is right for her, what fills and gives meaning to every day she lives. Then true motivation comes in.
After all, when there is energy, then great things are accomplished!
