Whatever one may say, but human life consists not only of joyful events. Joy is replaced by sadness, submissively obeying the unspoken law of nature. And, oddly enough, personally experiencing trouble seems much easier than being close to those into whose life it burst.
The bitterness of loss is an integral part of human life. Some come to this world with crying cries, while others leave it with tears and grief of family and friends. This is how nature works, and people only have to adapt to its realities, sometimes quite cruel. A person who has lost a loved one does not have to think about how to react and behave in this situation. It is hard for him, it hurts, but no other behavior can be imagined. If you have to look at the mountain from the outside, then there is a need or desire to express condolences to the bereaved. But how do you express them correctly?
Business condolences
If trouble overtook a person with whom you are more likely to be in official relations than in friendly relations, then it would be more correct to follow the art of communication, which excludes the rules of bad taste and familiarity. With the words “We mourn with you” or “Please accept my condolences,” you can shake hands with a colleague by lightly touching his forearm with your left hand. Such a gesture will allow you to more fully express sympathy and at the same time you do not risk crossing the line of business etiquette. If you have such an opportunity, you can provide financial support to the family, but in this case, you should be guided by the norms adopted in a particular circle of people. As much as you would like to share his feelings, do not forget that extra words can hurt a person who is upset.
Friendship condolences
If a person dear to your heart has lost a loved one or a loved one, then he needs you more than ever. He needs not your correctly and skillfully chosen words, but sincerity and friendly support. Do you want to share with your friend the bitterness of his loss? Be there, help as much as you can. Let him feel that he has you, that he is not alone. A beautiful and correct phrase blows cold, and there is always a little awkwardness in sincerity. Speak not with your head, but with your heart.
If you are emotionally close to your companion, then his soul will respond to your genuine compassion. By showing respect to his family, by participating in the organization of the commemoration, you will be of real benefit. Just imagine how difficult it is, faced with death, to think about everyday problems and to fuss, organizing a funeral event. Your duty of friendship is not so much to put words into sentences correctly, but to provide real support to your friend.
