Feelings of shame and remorse are familiar to almost every person, but in some they are very pronounced, while others can ignore them without much discomfort. These are mechanisms that have been established since childhood and allow you to live comfortably surrounded by people.
There are no two people with the same sensations, everyone has their own conscience, and although it can react to similar situations, everyone experiences its manifestation differently. Some people learn from childhood to ignore this feeling. It cannot be removed completely, but everyone can make it inconspicuous.
How conscience is formed
In childhood, the parents and the inner circle begin to raise the baby. They show by example and speak in words the rules that must be followed. There are a lot of these attitudes, and they must be remembered. At first, the mother makes reminders about how to behave, but after a few years the person begins to give instructions to himself, emphasizing that the behavior is wrong. For example, adults have taught that cheating is not good. It is highly likely that later the person will experience a feeling of discomfort when doing this.
Everyone has their own family, and the principles of upbringing are different. For some, something is acceptable, for others it is prohibited. And a set of taboos just forms the conscience. The more it was “impossible” in childhood, the more difficult it is for a person to live in the world, since the inner voice constantly makes you doubt the correctness of the decision made, the honesty of actions. And if you do not make an audit, do not remove many settings, life will seem terrible.
Conscience is formed on the basis of feelings of guilt. If suddenly something is done wrong, if the behavior does not correspond to the child's framework, a feeling of guilt arises inside. A person begins to scold himself for an act, there is a desire to fix everything, to do it in an amicable way. There are people who very successfully use this feeling in others, manipulate others.
How to change your conscience
If the feeling of guilt and shame occurs very often, it is worth reducing it. You need to understand that children's rules do not apply in the adult world. Lies, omissions, partial truths are present in life, and if this is terrible for a child, it is sometimes necessary for an adult. You just need to see these frames, realize them and no longer use them.
Behavioral restrictions can be removed by a psychologist. He will look for the attitudes that were laid down in childhood and make adjustments to them. This will require several sessions, but life will become much easier after them.
Interfering stereotypes can be removed by yourself using special programs. Today on the Internet you can find out the details of working with BSFF or the principles of reframing. These are methods of interacting with the subconscious mind, which make it possible to make the desired adjustments in behavior.
