It is extremely important for a person as a social being to stay in a society of his own kind. Even the most inveterate introvert needs active communication from time to time. However, it does not always proceed smoothly and without problems. Sometimes people unexpectedly face a kind of social isolation - they do not leave the feeling that everyone, including those closest to them, turned away from them and openly ignore their existence. How to be in such an uncomfortable situation?
Identifying the reasons for the boycott
First of all, it is important for yourself to understand: those around you, who yesterday warmly greeted a particular person quite warmly, cannot suddenly change their attitude towards him for absolutely no reason. Such drastic changes certainly had to have a reason - which someone who suddenly found himself in a forced social isolation could submit without even noticing and not attaching such importance.
Experts say that the behavior of those around us serves to a certain extent as an indicator of our attitude towards them. They seem to reflect those emotions and feelings that we splash out on them, and return them in the form of an appropriate reaction. Thus, everyone is given to understand how the line of his behavior is acceptable in a particular social environment and whether it does not need to be corrected in this connection.
Sometimes the fact that others turn away is provoked by such a seemingly trifle as a person's slovenliness - in clothes or in caring for their own home. It is easier for a considerable number of people in such a case to minimize communication with such an untidy, unkempt person than to make a comment on this score. In addition, the very communication with those from whom the unpleasant amber emanates due to neglect of hygiene procedures, and things from the wardrobe are somewhat reminiscent of the vesting of persons without a certain place of residence, causes a lot of negative emotions, from which everyone seeks to protect themselves.
The reasons for a certain boycott on the part of others are also often the strangeness of human behavior. For example, aggression, rudeness. However, changes in the life of a particular person (in particular, the adoption of a religion unusual for a given country, a change in the social circle to a more marginal one, etc.) also provoke condemnation of many people from his environment.
Correcting the situation
The tactics of an "isolated" person in such a situation should depend solely on its real cause. You should not indulge in excessive self-digging and baseless accusations of any mortal sins, but it is not a sin to identify real deviations from normal behavior and correct them in a timely manner.
So, if the reason for, to put it mildly, the unfriendly attitude of others was a person's slovenliness, he, of course, should put both himself and his own home in order. After all, there are absolutely no difficulties in doing the cleaning on time, performing the usual hygiene procedures and putting on clean and tidy-looking things.
In cases where the reasons for the alienation of other people are many times more serious, you will have to act somewhat differently. However, often, in fact, a universal option will be some correction of one's own behavior. It is worth slowing down the degree of aggressiveness and harshness in communication - and those around you will also become more benevolent.
If loved ones turn away from a particular person because of his beliefs (religious, political, etc.) or their change, then time should be the main healer. Of course, you should talk frankly with other people as much as possible, discussing the current situation and explain your own position calmly, calmly, without excessive emotions.
When such communication does not lead to reconciliation, or when they generally avoid contact, it is worth, moving from words to actions, by your own behavior to prove to them your adequacy and warm attitude. It is possible that after a certain time they will “thaw out”.
However, even if their location is lost forever, it is a sin to indulge in despair and believe that life is over. It is better to look for inner strength in yourself in order to withstand such a terrible situation and find sources of creating a positive attitude. In this case, the forced loneliness of a person is unlikely to last too long - he will certainly attract new friends and like-minded people who will appreciate his personal qualities and respect him.
