It often happens that because of a mere trifle, which otherwise you would not have paid attention to, a real quarrel flares up. After a while, people begin to shout insults in the face, and throw dishes at their feet. Then everything happens according to the same scenario: someone sobs endlessly, while the other loudly slams the door. But as a result, both of them have only extremely negative emotions in their souls.
Instructions
Step 1
The first and most important rule of a quarrel is to never insult the other person. Sometimes, just one accidental or intentional insult is enough for a quarrel to develop into a major offense, which is very difficult to survive. Even if you are quarreling about a relationship, do not focus your attention on the personality of the other person, only on the problem itself.
Step 2
There are people who get turned on very quickly, but at the same time they are quick-witted. Paying attention to every phrase you say in the heat of the moment will soon become your usual communication pattern. In this case, the only sure way to get out of a quarrel is to just keep quiet for a few minutes and wait until the person "lets off steam." However, there are people who simply cannot remain silent when they are scolded, but if this person is important to you, then there is simply no other way out.
Step 3
Disengagement is a term that denotes the termination of interaction between the parties in a quarrel, leaving them from the "battlefield". For example, either a spouse goes to a friend, or you go to different rooms and do not bother each other. This method of avoiding a quarrel has one drawback - a post-conflict situation, which is very painful for each of the parties. If the separation has occurred, then try to settle the relationship as soon as possible, in this case, you can make concessions.
Step 4
During an argument, try to speak as calmly and in turns as possible. This is one of the simplest and most effective psychological tricks. It's quite simple: one person speaks and the other listens and vice versa. Soon, the quarrel will turn into a simple conversation.
Step 5
If quarrels have become commonplace for you, then come up with a special word with another person, pronouncing which you will be distracted. That is, it should look like this: as soon as a quarrel flares up, you say a certain word and then remain silent for several minutes. Then the quarrel can be continued, but often it turns out that no one needs it.
Step 6
A quarrel is brewing - go to visit, no matter who, even if to the neighbors at the entrance. No one wants to show their differences in the family, so with your friends you will calm down and will not throw angry glances at each other.
