Grief is a person's emotional and spiritual response to the severity of a loss. It is normal to grieve for a loved one or animal. Breaking up can make you feel deeply depressed. As you experience bereavement, you feel sadness, pain, frustration, and even anger. Physically, you are as exhausted as you are emotionally. Loss of sleep and appetite are frequent companions of grief. If you do not go through all the stages of grief, it is impossible to accept and overcome pain. But you can't get stuck in any one stage, because life, in spite of everything, continues.
Necessary
- Support for loved ones
- Time
Instructions
Step 1
Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, in her book On Death and Dying, has identified five emotional phases in people experiencing grief:
Negation
At the first moment, we do not want and cannot believe that what happened is true. It is difficult for us to accept what has happened, and we simply deny it. Our psyche is trying to protect us and prepare us for further experiences.
Anger
Anger is an important step in the grieving process. He allows anger and frustration to burst out. We can blame the one who brought us bad news or even the person who left us. It seems to us that by throwing these feelings out, we will somehow reduce the unbearable pain. If you feel angry at the deceased, do not reproach yourself for this, understand that this is also an indicator of how dear the deceased was to you.
Negotiation
At this stage, many people turn to God or deities. You realize the reality and severity of the loss and are trying to somehow buy off the irreparable. Someone is praying, someone is thinking that they would like to die instead of a loved one.
Depression
At this stage, you may find it difficult to get out of bed, just open your eyes in the morning, and go about your daily activities. Emptiness and numbness are the feelings that haunt the grieving person in these moments.
Adoption
After accepting what happened, pain, shock, anger, and depression subside. This does not mean that you immediately start feeling happy, but you can move on. Acceptance is a repetitive process, when time after time you realize that what happened is reality and you need to somehow continue to live.
Understanding what is happening to you in your grief can help you get through and deal with it.
Step 2
Remember, grief is a normal human response to loss. Accept your grief and all the physical and emotional manifestations that accompany it. Express your feelings, you don't need to keep emotions inside. Sob, smash the dishes, talk to others about what you are experiencing. If you are an emotionally reserved person and find it difficult to express your feelings in public, find another outlet for emotional stress. Write letters, draw, write poetry.
Step 3
Don't cross your friends and family out of your life. Let them help you. Yes, it will be hard with you, but you should not refuse people to show love and care for you. Give room to compassion.
Step 4
Force yourself to take care of your health. Eat, I don’t want to go for a walk, I don’t want to, take sedatives before bed. If your loss is a breakup or divorce, make yourself feel a taste for life - take care of yourself, go with your friends to an expensive restaurant, buy theater tickets. If you are experiencing the loss of a loved one, do not feel guilty for being alive. It is unlikely that this is what you yourself would wish for your loved one if it was he who lost you.
Step 5
Say goodbye to a loved one or a being by visiting the places where you have been together, where you felt good. Let sorrow turn to sorrow.
