A person in a state of frustration, anxiety or panic evokes sympathy and a desire to support others in others. But their advice is not always useful, and more often - on the contrary, it is harmful. Many words that seem appropriate can aggravate the situation by reinforcing negative emotions. So, what phrases are not able to calm the upset person?
Don't get upset about bullshit
What seems to you to be nonsense can be very important in the value system of another person. Such a phrase will belittle something significant, and not give the situation a more positive connotation.
There is no need to convince a person that nothing significant has happened. On the contrary, it is necessary to encourage him, to remind that earlier in such situations he coped well with his emotions. Words like these will help you get out of a negative state.
Calm down
A person overwhelmed by feelings, perhaps, would be glad to calm down. But these states are difficult to control. On command, not everyone can take and calm down.
Instead, it's better to use call-to-action phrases. For example, suggest taking a walk in the park, doing something together. Classes will distract and calm the person.
Everything will be fine
This banal phrase will not bring the desired calming effect. It is unlikely that they will believe you, tk. this attempt to instill confidence is not supported by anything. Moreover, not hearing the reasons why everything will turn out well, the person can become even more upset.
According to psychologists, the best effect will come from accepting your anxiety, rather than running away from it.
I had the same
The belief that you feel just as bad is a common technique. However, even if you are experiencing the same emotions, you do not need to dwell on them. The state of depression is contagious, having been with a person who is seized with negative feelings, emotional decline occurs.
To help an upset person (and yourself), you shouldn't grieve together, it will be more useful to get distracted together, for example, take a walk.
Have a drink
In the near future, perhaps, alcohol will help calm down, but in the future it will lead to severe depression, and even to alcoholism. Emotional problems will only get worse.
