There is nothing abnormal about sporadic viewing of pornographic pictures, videos and films. Much has changed since the time of the Inquisition and the house building, and today viewing "obscenities", unless it is, of course, real rape or porn with minors, does not cause categorical rejection in society. However, it happens that pornography crowds out reality, and a person wants to change, but cannot because of mental addiction.
Instructions
Step 1
With rare exceptions, watching porn is accompanied by masturbation. And although people do not go blind from masturbation, contrary to grandmother's stories, excessive passion for pornography and frequent masturbation are considered a conditional pathology - pornophilia. If you feel that you are no longer getting satisfaction in sex or you cannot have full-fledged sex without porno-doping, and sometimes you don’t even notice the desire to have sex with a real partner, it’s time to quit porn. Firstly, you have a clear disorder of attraction and all the signs of depression, and secondly, both of them tend to progress, making life more difficult.
Step 2
It is best to immediately contact a psychologist (provided that you prefer regular pornography, where adults have sex with adults in arbitrary combinations, and do not search under the guise of anonymizers for queries like "snaff", "real rape" or "zooskool"; in such cases, only a psychiatrist will help). But first, it's worth trying to figure out and cope with the addiction on your own. Yet conclusions drawn by one's own mind are the most reliable conclusions.
Step 3
Porn and masturbation is the stimulation of the production of the "happiness hormone" (dopamine), which means the actual addiction. Sex in a sense can also be called a drug, but even during sexual contact with a prostitute there is communication, exchange of skills and emotions. With masturbation, there can be no talk of any communication component. Therefore, it is necessary to simultaneously stop porn viewing / masturbation and start communicating with living people. Not necessarily for sex. For the sake of preserving yourself as a person. The fact is that pornophilia, like drug addiction, has its own phases: the search for a dose, the "injection" itself, a short period of high and a long period of depressed and depressed mood in search of a new, increased dose. Forbid yourself to masturbate and, so that there is no temptation, erase your porn archive, remove all links to porn sites from bookmarks in the browser, unsubscribe from thematic pages on social networks, or, better, even put "parental control" of the Internet on your computer, set random unlock password character set and do not save it anywhere.
Step 4
The consciousness accustomed to pornostimulation must go through "withdrawal" (abstinence). The best way to help yourself overcome it is to occupy the freed up time with sports, work or creativity: in gyms, studios, clubs, coworking spaces, in the company of unfamiliar people, it’s easier to keep yourself together. Mass events are also good if you can go to bed immediately after attending without turning on your computer. Sleeping pills and sedatives help a lot (strictly on the recommendation of a doctor!): Less excitement, fewer "pauses". You can temporarily settle at home a freelance friend who does not like to walk or a stay-at-home friend of strict morals. To take not a bath, so as not to give rampant fantasies, but a contrast shower. Get carried away with the achievement of some new goal. The main thing is to occupy oneself with useful work, switch thoughts and tire the body, so that in moments of relaxation that have become rare, not even a hand is at hand. By the way, experienced porn lovers are given a characteristic difference in the development of the shoulder-elbow muscles. Think, is it worth it to reveal yourself so frankly?
Step 5
Pornography lovers often have problems with sexual fulfillment. Admitting this to yourself, try to talk with your regular sexual partner about adding variety to your intimate life (what if your fantasies coincide?), And if there is none, try to find him. Not on the internet! On the street, in a cafe, at work … The very process of searching is already a big waste of energy and time, previously devoted to self-satisfaction. Remember the main thing: the less pornography in your life, the fuller, more varied, and interesting life.
