Many people are tormented by the question: "How to arrange your personal life?" Men and women, both young and more mature people are assigned to them. Even those people who say that they feel good alone are lying. For many, it is important that there is a close person with whom they could start a family. But not everyone manages to find themselves in their personal lives. Some are not confident in themselves, so they are afraid to get acquainted with the opposite sex. Others have experienced disappointment in previous relationships, so they are also distrustful of dating.
Instructions
Step 1
Before looking for a companion or life partner, think about why your relationship is not working out. Maybe you are not confident in yourself, trying to make others pay less attention to you. Or you already had a bad experience in your personal life, so it is difficult for you to open up to a new person, you are afraid of new disappointment. Or perhaps, when meeting you, you too clearly demonstrate your desire to start a family, have a serious relationship, and this scares off potential boyfriends.
Step 2
Once you've identified the reasons for your failures, start working on them. To gain confidence, attend special trainings. You can enroll in pickup courses, where you will be taught to meet and find an approach to people.
Step 3
If you are afraid of new disappointment, it may not be worth looking for a partner for yourself now, since you have not yet moved away from your past relationship. Get distracted by something else, take up some hobbies, work, communicate more with friends. But at the same time, try to understand that all people are different. And if one person disappoints you, another will not necessarily do it - learn to trust people. Or maybe there is your fault in parting with your past partner - rethink that relationship and draw certain conclusions in order to avoid such mistakes next time.
Step 4
Use different ways to meet. Be in crowded places more. If you sit at home, then hardly anyone will be interested. Go with friends to cafes, movies, attend cultural events. You can sign up for some courses. For example, study a foreign language or get a license. Who knows, maybe it is here that your fate will await you.
Step 5
You can use dating sites. On the one hand, it is even easier to get acquainted on the Internet, since the person does not see you, and you can feel more free. But on the other hand, in order to find a partner for a serious relationship, you will have to communicate with a large number of people, since many are looking for an easy relationship without commitment. And communication on the Internet is different from what is in reality. Therefore, you should not get too hung up on this method of acquaintance.
Step 6
Assess yourself critically. Maybe your appearance is so plain and unremarkable that no one pays attention to you. If so, it's worth changing your image. Go shopping and choose for yourself fashionable beautiful clothes that will emphasize your dignity, your inner world, which will make you stand out from other people. If you are unsure how to choose clothes, seek help from fashion magazines or stylists.
Step 7
Perhaps it is worth changing not only your clothes, but also taking care of your figure. Go to the gym. There you can not only correct the flaws in your appearance, but also meet a lot of people. With some of them, it is possible that friendships or romantic relationships will be established.
Step 8
Do not get hung up on the fact that you are lonely, that your personal life does not work out. If you constantly think about it, the people around you will begin to perceive you the same way. Besides, thoughts are material. If they are negative, then the events in your life will have the same color. Think that everything is fine, that sooner or later you will meet a person with whom you can start a family, have children, etc.
