In life, there are situations that you want to quickly remove from memory. It happens that people hurt each other, because of which it is very difficult to forget and forgive the other person. Some, after certain events, begin to hate people who may remind of negative past experiences. Especially strong emotions arise when a person was very close.
Instructions
Step 1
Hate has a devastating effect on any person. Scientists have proven that negative emotions lead not only to mental disharmony, to psychological problems, but even to physical illness. Moreover, the problems arise precisely with the one who hates, and almost do not concern the one whom they hate. Indeed, very rarely a person can express his emotions to the object of hatred. If you hate for a long time and do not express your negativity in any way, life becomes unbearable. Therefore, it is important to overcome hatred and other destructive feelings, say goodbye to the past and let go of the situation.
Step 2
To get rid of the feeling of hatred, you first need to understand its cause. You just can't start hating a person. Once he was close, once he brought positive emotions, once he gave happiness and love, and then he stopped. The situations in which this can happen are different. It is important for the hater that now the person has become a stranger, different, not the same as before. And you need to think about the reason for the hatred. Often it can be caused by the most insignificant reason, some trifle that grows without elaboration, accumulates and destroys a person from the inside. Sometimes the mere realization of the reason already helps to get rid of destructive emotions, because it turns out to be too insignificant to cover all the good that is associated with this person.
Step 3
After realizing the reasons, it is worth considering whether it was possible for a person to act differently than he did, or not. To do this, you need to put yourself in the place of the object of hatred. Perhaps he had no other choice. Perhaps his reality and conditions did not allow him to take a different path. Naturally, it is difficult to accept and forgive insults or humiliation, but often hatred develops not because one person did something unpleasant, but because his partner allowed it to be done. It turns out that negative emotions build up inside a person only because of himself. Having accepted and realized this, it will be necessary to get rid of self-hatred.
Step 4
In some cases, you can get rid of hatred by discussing your emotions with the person. When people stop carrying negativity inside, life becomes easier. The best solution to the problem is to discuss the situation. If the conversation can only aggravate the problem, it is best not to start it. But emotions still need to be thrown out: go out into the field and shout a lot, tear pieces of paper or break the dishes, go to the gym and throw out anger on a punching bag, etc. After getting rid of strong feelings, it will be easier to analyze the situation.
Step 5
If the cause of hatred is identified and the situation is analyzed from different angles, you can proceed to the next important stage: letting go of the past. In any case, it cannot be changed, which means that the most correct decision will be the realization that you need to live in the present, today moment. It is necessary to realize past mistakes, to understand that ideal people do not exist and no one is obliged to act the way they want not to him, but to someone else. It is useful for a person to avoid making similar mistakes in the future.
Step 6
If the situation is such that communication with a person cannot be stopped, and hatred does not go away, you can apply the following technique. When communicating, you need to imagine your partner as a little boy who sits inside him, downtrodden and unhappy. Every time his "master" does something wrong, this boy becomes even more unhappy and downtrodden. You need to forgive him, let him know that you feel sorry for him. At the same time, you can do all this mentally, outwardly avoiding rudeness and behavior similar to the partner. Instead of a little boy, you can imagine a kitten, a cute fluffy monster or other fantastic creature - the main thing is that this should be the perception of the partner's soul, which really wants to be kind and naive.
Step 7
In general, inner work can work wonders. For some, such work is carried out with the help of religion, for others - with the help of cosmic energy or the astral body, and some turn to the inner or higher “I”, trying to connect with the inner “I” of another person. Such internal dialogues will help to get rid of hatred. Even simple affirmations like “I forgive you,” “I let you go,” or “I only remember the good things that happened between us,” directed to a former partner, can bring relief and get rid of negativity. For someone who works well with images, you can imagine a picture of how he waves his hand to an object of hatred departing, leaving or floating away, as if saying goodbye. If you manage to imagine such a picture for several weeks or months, most likely, the hatred will pass, and a person will even be surprised when meeting with a former partner how easy and pleasant it is in his soul.
