You can call a person happy if he has never hated anyone. But such people are almost impossible to meet. Hatred seems to be eating away from the inside. That is why it is necessary to fight it.
Instructions
Step 1
To stop hating a person, you first need to understand yourself. Ask yourself the question, "What caused this hatred?" It may have been grown for years, or it may have arisen as a result of the wrong word or actions. There is always a reason to hate a person. But it can be quite insignificant at first glance. Only by finding what caused the hatred, you can begin to fight.
Step 2
Well, that's the answer was found, because of what hatred arose for him. Now you need to try to take the place of the hated person. Mentally switch roles and analyze yourself and his behavior at the moment when hatred arose. Would the same thing happen or not? Perhaps the hated person is not even aware of such an attitude towards him. Indeed, very often it is to those for whom hatred arises that special attention is shown. The one who hates is especially attentive and courteous, and the hated one considers this to be sympathetic. If so, then the easiest option is to talk. Discuss what the person is not happy with, what he should not say and do. Most likely, this will have its effect - and then the whole problem will be eliminated.
Step 3
If a person deliberately does nasty things, causing hatred, then ordinary conversation will not lead to anything good. In this case, you need to realize that a person simply likes this behavior. Perhaps, with such behavior, he hides some of his complexes. Realizing this will help reduce hatred and move on to the next step.
Step 4
Forgive the person you hate. It would seem that it could be easier than forgiving a person who does or has done something unpleasant. But in fact, without realizing all the reasons why a person is hated, it is very difficult to forgive. After all, all unpleasant actions or words on his part are just a sign of weakness and imperfection. Forgive him for being this way. And then it will be possible to let go of hatred without dwelling on the actions of a person.
Step 5
If nothing helps and hatred still lives inside, then it is worth contacting a specialist. There are many exercises to help you deal with hate. But only a psychologist can choose them correctly. Do not be afraid to go to him, because hatred can be very harmful. And getting rid of it, first of all, will be beneficial for the one who hates it.
