Hate is a powerful negative emotion. It destroys a person, poisons his life. It is especially difficult if it is directed at the closest and dearest, the one who will always be with you - at himself.
Instructions
Step 1
This attitude towards oneself often comes from childhood. However, it is not necessary that your parents were overly arbitrary; children's sensitivity could have played a role. Perhaps, as a child, my mother said that she would like her daughter to play a musical instrument, and you are completely deaf, and dad, being tired after work, scolded too much for a broken mug. This can hurt an impressionable child - he does not live up to the expectations of the mother, thereby upsetting her. Father in his hearts said that you shouldn't touch anything, because you spoil everything - and now you are clumsy, and you will never succeed. At the same time, it is likely that your parents forgot about such episodes. Have a heart-to-heart talk with them. Ask how they feel about you as an adult, what they think of your accomplishments. If you have a good relationship, recognizing your parents will help you hate yourself less.
Step 2
Be your own lawyer. Do you feel hate after an event? Justify yourself. After the interview, you were not invited to the position because the manager wanted to see in this position a representative of the opposite sex with knowledge of Spanish, and you speak English. You didn’t have time to clean the house because you were very tired at work, completing an important task. You didn't manage to figure out the knitting pattern, because you have never done this in your life, but you will surely succeed next time.
Step 3
Find the upsides in yourself. You have many positive qualities, but you may simply not notice them behind the veil of hatred. Try to be objective and note the traits that you find pleasing. It can be some kind of skills - the ability to solve problems in higher mathematics or cook pies, features of appearance - thin long fingers, graceful ankles, luxurious hair, achievements - a graduated university, a sign of an honorary donor, character traits - benevolence, perseverance, caring. Remind yourself of them more often, or better - write them down on a piece of paper and hang them in a prominent place.
Step 4
Surround yourself with people who will love and appreciate you. It can be a loved one, friends, buddies, colleagues. Try to limit communication with those who belittle you, devalue your achievements, and disregard your feelings. Seeing how your environment treats you, your heart will thaw, you can look at yourself through their eyes and moderate your hatred.
